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farah

@farah@beige.party

Deeply flawed geriatric millennial human, trying her best
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Jgbird , to random
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Sick at home, not feeling good. Hereā€™s a Stellerā€™s jay.

farah ,
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@Jgbird Thatā€™s beautiful! Hope you feel better soon šŸ’•

farah , to random
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Any of you fine folks play kalimba?

farah , to random
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Friendly reminder, no one owes you their queer/gay/lesbian/bi/trans origin story. Leave them be!

farah , to ActuallyAutistic group
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Iā€™ve been reading about ā€œstimming in autismā€, which up until now was very confusing to me mostly because thatā€™s the one point kept being repeated in the community being a must for an autistic individual. And I canā€™t relate to that at all.

Then I came across something that describes the purpose of ā€˜stimmingā€™ is to deal with extra energy. Then it kinda hit me, Iā€™ve never had the need to stim because Iā€™m a low energy person in general.

I get overwhelmed with activities when they involve raising heart rates (yes, THAT too). I like quiet things, dead of night etc. Once at a time in my life, I was pretty sure I could hear flow of electricity.

So my question to the community: do you think stimming is a must for autistic people? Do you relate to it? Anyone know of any low energy stimming that gets overlooked?

Thanks! Much love!! šŸ’• @actuallyautistic

farah , to random
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Adding ā€˜Stay weirdā€™ to ā€˜Be gay. Do crimesā€™ motto

ElleGray , to random
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    farah ,
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    @ElleGray Thatā€™s just milk. I think

    farah ,
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    @ElleGray (American) Tea Dies in Whiteness ā„¢

    farah , to random
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    I need to buy but new graphic shirt because apparently Iā€™ve gone up a size. Where did you get your favorite ones?

    My favorite is a black tee with white text that says Minnesota that I got from my trip to Duluth. It was a good trip

    alice , (edited ) to random
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    "Hey, totally unrelated, and if this is too personal then please just ignore me, lol. What exactly was your experience like, figuring out that you're nonbinary, and roughly when did that happen?
    " ā€”Someone I know on Matrix

    I responded in chat, but figured my answers might be of broader interest to people who are enby(or Alice)-curious šŸ˜‹ So here it goes...

    āš ļø CW for some slurs and gender stereotyping āš ļø

    The short of it is that a couple years ago my kid expressed to me that they weren't sure if they were their assigned gender. To be supportive, I started learning everything I could about being trans. Eventually, they decided that they were okay with their birth gender (at least for now, and maybe forever), but I realized I wasn't okay with mine.

    I've always been :_gaysparkle: queerā„¢ :_gaysparkle:, and I've always sort of skirted gender norms (leaning more heavily one way or another as I grew up), but I was raised in a time (the 80s/90s) and environment (latchkey kid with no [living] LGBT+ family members) where transgender people weren't really "a thing". There were "cross-dressers", and "trannies", and several other slurs, but it all got reduced to a "fetish" or "sickness" at the end.

    I didn't feel like I had any sort of (relevant) fetish, and I didn't think I was sick, so it must be "something else".

    Basically, I didn't have the vocabulary to express that I was nonbinary, or to know it was even an option not to be my assigned gender.

    But don't get me wrong, I've never identified particularly strongly with either extreme of traditional gender presentation. Looking back through the lens of what I know now, there were a lot of things I was dysphoric about (and several that still get to me), but at the time I just thought I was weird or that everyone else felt the same and no one mentioned it.

    So I didn't mention it either.

    Now that I'm older, better informed, and give even fewer fucks what other people think about how I express myself, it's surprising to me that it took so long to figure things out.

    So unlike some trans people who strongly associated with their non-assigned gender from an early age, and some nonbinary folk who collect genders like PokĆ©mon, I'm the kind of enby who just gives a lot less importance to which gender I take my influences fromā€”as long as I like the aesthetic or it makes me feel more "me", then we're all good.

    So I think I'm probably somewhere around a...um, Alice(?) when it comes to my gender expression šŸ™ƒ

    It's still a work in progress, but as it stands now:

    • I hardly wear makeup šŸ’„ (except nail polish šŸ’…šŸ»)
    • Most of my clothes are marketed as being for women, but are pretty unisex ā€”save for my cute socks and underwear šŸ§¦šŸ‘™
    • I like pinks and purples...a lot šŸ’œ
    • I like having muscle definition šŸ’ŖšŸ»
    • I can't stand body hair šŸŖ’
    • I like my tits, but I'm glad they're small šŸ§šŸ§
    • I've had short hair for most of my adult life, but I'm having fun growing it out again like when I was a kid šŸ‘©šŸ»ā€šŸ¦²šŸ‘©šŸ»ā€šŸ¦°
    • I dislike most sports, except of course for locksport šŸ”“ and Bloodsport (1998) šŸ©ø

    It feels super-awkward listing off all the stereotypically gendered things about me that I can think of. The idea of a color or a haircut being "for boys" or "for girls" just seems weirdly restrictive and arbitrary.

    If you made it this far, neat! You get a cookie šŸŖ

    If you have any questions, feel free to ask me anything.

    If you have any comments or relevant experiences, please share.

    Thanks for reading šŸ’•

    farah ,
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    @alice Fuck. Umm okay. Thanks for this. Iā€™ve been thinking about some of these lately. So this will definitely help me with the process

    One thing thoughā€¦ couple of years back, one fine morning I woke up and decided to use they/them in addition to she/her. My first thought was, ā€œdonā€™t perceive my gender!ā€ Now I wonder if it was something else šŸ¤”

    farah ,
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    @alice Thanks a bunch! Iā€™ll look into it

    farah , to random
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    Dear food businesses, I need to able to check your menu/ingredients before I eat at your establishments, because we have food allergies in our fam. If you put your entire website contents behind Facebook, I cannot do that. Please have an alternative. Sincerely, someone who really loves food

    paninid , to random
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    Hi, itā€™s me, Iā€™m the problem, I know

    farah ,
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    @paninid @histodons Relatable

    ElleGray , to random
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    farah ,
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    @ElleGray Seriously I was gonna unleash hell until I read the caption ā€œwhich mofo gold leafed their ham??ā€

    ElleGray , to random
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    farah ,
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    @ElleGray My grandma would beat this person with her blowpipe (which she used to control the flow of heat in her clay/wood stove), but then again she was a sweetheart, god rest her soul

    farah , to random
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    Speaking of geeky feminine things, I found this carry bag for Nintendo switch that is so cute, kinda tempted to make it my main handbag now. I mean look at this pretty thang! šŸ„°

    jeffowski , to random
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    farah ,
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    @jeffowski That one was pathetically hilarious. I was like - bruh, thatā€™s a lot of words just to say ā€œI donā€™t respect womenā€

    farah , to random
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    First class thread šŸ˜… https://hachyderm.io/@kellogh/112213116367373553

    ElleGray , to random
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    Dedication

    farah ,
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    @ElleGray Borrowing this for my future bookšŸ˜…

    futurebird , to random
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    I've finally started saving the pdfs of the papers I read in organized folders by topic so I can find them again. I give them clear titles so I know what they are (not DOI345234.pdf) I even put the folder "in the cloud" so I can read them on my phone when I'm bored.

    ...

    please clap

    farah ,
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    @futurebird

    Happy Standing Ovation GIF by The Academy Awards

    ElleGray , (edited ) to random
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    I'll know we're winning when everyone has stopped saying "AI tech is inevitable," like it's an angry God we're powerless to stop, and starts making fun of it. It deserves no diffidence, no respect, no fear. This is the way

    farah ,
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    @Ciela @ElleGray Iā€™m more of an I fan than A. (Its ginger (aadrak) & cardamom (ilaichi); not that anyone asked. Sorry)

    GottaLaff , to random
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    šŸ† Oh suh-NAP! (He should have said, ā€œMr. Presidentā€¦SIR, with tears in his eyesā€¦ā€ for bonus mockage)

    Via Kyle Griffin:

    President #Biden, speaking at a Texas fundraiser: "Just the other day, this defeated looking man came up to me and said: 'Mr. President I need your help. I'm in crushing debt. I'm completely wiped out.' I had to say, 'Donald, I can't help you'." #Trump

    farah ,
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    @GottaLaff Omg is this for real?? Cause damn!!

    MaJ1 , to ActuallyAutistic group
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    & Gā€™day Squirrel Fans, hope I find you bright eyed & bushy tailed!

    Ok stuff to do this morning so Iā€™ll have to dash across your TL & catch up with you all later , you lovely Peeps !

    BTW Apparently the fact that you folks are the only ones I have regular contact with is classic ASD!

    Have a cracking Thursday , youā€™re all nuts & I šŸ«¶ yers ! šŸ˜ŠšŸ«¶šŸæļøšŸ––

    @weirdfolks @actuallyautistic

    Picture an AI cartoon rendition of a squirrel in baseball cap & shades hiking thru the countryside. Thanks to @PlaystationPixy for the AI Whispering šŸ˜Š

    farah ,
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    @MaJ1 @ravensrod @PaulNickson @niamhgarvey @Cbfoley @RosePuckey @peterainbow @harriettmb @actuallyautistic @weirdfolks Did someone say cake??

    ElleGray , to random
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    farah ,
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    @ElleGray Condolences

    LRRRonEarth , to random
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    IF I AM NOT ELECTED, I PROMISE A HEMOCLASTIC ORGY OF VIOLENCE AND--

    MUFFLES MICROPHONE WHAT DO YOU MEAN, THE OTHER GUY ALREADY DID THIS LINE? THIS IS MY THING.

    farah ,
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    @passenger @LRRRonEarth Heā€™s probably gonna say ā€œā€¦ homoclastic. No that kind of homo. We donā€™t like homo. No one likes homo. Soā€¦ homoclastic orgy..ā€

    flexghost , to random
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    The Kansas Republican Party hosted a fundraiser last Friday

    During which, attendees could pay to assault an effigy of President Biden

    Remember when simply criticizing Trump or Bush policies would trigger the rightā€”causing them to scream ā€œitā€™s unamerican to disrespect the president!ā€

    These are deplorables

    šŸ‡ŗšŸ‡ø

    Large republicans kicking a punching dummy dressed up like the sitting president of the United States. One of the most bland ā€œcome togetherā€ moderates and theyā€™re this triggered.

    farah ,
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    @flexghost This reminded me a scene from a book (I think it was by Chuck Wendig?)

    farah , to random
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    Go beige! Beige bless!! :bb:
    Cc: @theropologist https://mastodon.social/@AltTextHealthCheck/111997727952765100

    GottaLaff , to random
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    I take requests. Hereā€™s Hamilton, Mastodonā€™s service dog to the rescue.

    farah ,
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    @GottaLaff Highly boopable

    farah , to random
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    Enough serious talk, who wants to talk about Expanse?

    In the show they made Camina Drummer such a composite character; wish they didnā€™t. Nobody is THAT perfect. In this instance I think the book did better

    farah OP ,
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    @inkican Lmao

    lowqualityfacts , to random
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    Wow.
    https://patreon.com/lowqualityfacts

    farah ,
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    @lowqualityfacts Highly probable

    lowqualityfacts , to random
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    We made a comic about shooting stars.

    farah ,
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    @lowqualityfacts You didnā€™t have to do Pluto like that

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