farah

Jgbird , 18 days ago to random

Sick at home, not feeling good. Here’s a Steller’s jay.

farah , 18 days ago

@Jgbird That’s beautiful! Hope you feel better soon 💕

18+ nathanlovestrees , 1 month ago to random

orogenesis + oogenesis = __________

18+ farah , 1 month ago

@nathanlovestrees “Is that a mountain or are you just happy to see me?”

ElleGray , 1 month ago to random

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farah , 1 month ago

@ElleGray That’s just milk. I think

farah , 1 month ago

@ElleGray (American) Tea Dies in Whiteness ™

alice , 1 month ago (edited 1 month ago) to random

"Hey, totally unrelated, and if this is too personal then please just ignore me, lol. What exactly was your experience like, figuring out that you're nonbinary, and roughly when did that happen?
" —Someone I know on Matrix

I responded in chat, but figured my answers might be of broader interest to people who are enby(or Alice)-curious 😋 So here it goes...

⚠️ CW for some slurs and gender stereotyping ⚠️

The short of it is that a couple years ago my kid expressed to me that they weren't sure if they were their assigned gender. To be supportive, I started learning everything I could about being trans. Eventually, they decided that they were okay with their birth gender (at least for now, and maybe forever), but I realized I wasn't okay with mine.

I've always been :_gaysparkle: queer™ :_gaysparkle:, and I've always sort of skirted gender norms (leaning more heavily one way or another as I grew up), but I was raised in a time (the 80s/90s) and environment (latchkey kid with no [living] LGBT+ family members) where transgender people weren't really "a thing". There were "cross-dressers", and "trannies", and several other slurs, but it all got reduced to a "fetish" or "sickness" at the end.

I didn't feel like I had any sort of (relevant) fetish, and I didn't think I was sick, so it must be "something else".

Basically, I didn't have the vocabulary to express that I was nonbinary, or to know it was even an option not to be my assigned gender.

But don't get me wrong, I've never identified particularly strongly with either extreme of traditional gender presentation. Looking back through the lens of what I know now, there were a lot of things I was dysphoric about (and several that still get to me), but at the time I just thought I was weird or that everyone else felt the same and no one mentioned it.

So I didn't mention it either.

Now that I'm older, better informed, and give even fewer fucks what other people think about how I express myself, it's surprising to me that it took so long to figure things out.

So unlike some trans people who strongly associated with their non-assigned gender from an early age, and some nonbinary folk who collect genders like Pokémon, I'm the kind of enby who just gives a lot less importance to which gender I take my influences from—as long as I like the aesthetic or it makes me feel more "me", then we're all good.

So I think I'm probably somewhere around a...um, Alice(?) when it comes to my gender expression 🙃

It's still a work in progress, but as it stands now:

• I hardly wear makeup 💄 (except nail polish 💅🏻)
• Most of my clothes are marketed as being for women, but are pretty unisex —save for my cute socks and underwear 🧦👙
• I like pinks and purples...a lot 💜
• I like having muscle definition 💪🏻
• I can't stand body hair 🪒
• I like my tits, but I'm glad they're small 🧁🧁
• I've had short hair for most of my adult life, but I'm having fun growing it out again like when I was a kid 👩🏻‍🦲👩🏻‍🦰
• I dislike most sports, except of course for locksport 🔓 and Bloodsport (1998) 🩸

It feels super-awkward listing off all the stereotypically gendered things about me that I can think of. The idea of a color or a haircut being "for boys" or "for girls" just seems weirdly restrictive and arbitrary.

If you made it this far, neat! You get a cookie 🍪

If you have any questions, feel free to ask me anything.

If you have any comments or relevant experiences, please share.

Thanks for reading 💕

#Nonbinary #LGBTQ #Trans #AMA

farah , 1 month ago

@alice Fuck. Umm okay. Thanks for this. I’ve been thinking about some of these lately. So this will definitely help me with the process

One thing though… couple of years back, one fine morning I woke up and decided to use they/them in addition to she/her. My first thought was, “don’t perceive my gender!” Now I wonder if it was something else 🤔

farah , 1 month ago

@alice Thanks a bunch! I’ll look into it

paninid , 1 month ago to random

Hi, it’s me, I’m the problem, I know

#history

farah , 1 month ago

@paninid @histodons Relatable

futurebird , 1 month ago to random

Why do all these solemn newsmen keep insisting that Trump said it’s fine for states to monitor all pregnant people because he “doesn’t think much about the issue” like —they see what a fantastically bad take it is and make excuses for him! Why? “he’s not really that authoritarian- he just hasn’t thought it through” Who cares?

Why try to be a Trump whisper and decode the erratic catchphrase-driven slam poetry?

And if it’s true he doesn’t care, isn’t that worse?

18+ farah , 1 month ago

@futurebird This is just excuses to keep women afraid and in check. Because god forbid, women do anything that men don’t approve or like

ElleGray , 1 month ago to random

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farah , 1 month ago

@ElleGray Seriously I was gonna unleash hell until I read the caption “which mofo gold leafed their ham??”

ElleGray , 2 months ago to random

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farah , 2 months ago

@ElleGray My grandma would beat this person with her blowpipe (which she used to control the flow of heat in her clay/wood stove), but then again she was a sweetheart, god rest her soul

jeffowski , 2 months ago to random

farah , 2 months ago

@jeffowski That one was pathetically hilarious. I was like - bruh, that’s a lot of words just to say “I don’t respect women”

ElleGray , 2 months ago to random

Dedication

farah , 2 months ago

@ElleGray Borrowing this for my future book😅

futurebird , 2 months ago to random

I've finally started saving the pdfs of the papers I read in organized folders by topic so I can find them again. I give them clear titles so I know what they are (not DOI345234.pdf) I even put the folder "in the cloud" so I can read them on my phone when I'm bored.

...

please clap

farah , 2 months ago

@futurebird

Happy Standing Ovation GIF by The Academy Awards

ElleGray , 2 months ago (edited 2 months ago) to random

I'll know we're winning when everyone has stopped saying "AI tech is inevitable," like it's an angry God we're powerless to stop, and starts making fun of it. It deserves no diffidence, no respect, no fear. This is the way

farah , 2 months ago

@Ciela @ElleGray I’m more of an I fan than A. (Its ginger (aadrak) & cardamom (ilaichi); not that anyone asked. Sorry)

MaJ1 , 3 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

#MorningAll & #TZAG G’day Squirrel Fans, hope I find you bright eyed & bushy tailed!

Ok stuff to do this morning so I’ll have to dash across your TL & catch up with you all later , you lovely Peeps !

BTW Apparently the fact that you folks are the only ones I have regular contact with is classic ASD!

Have a cracking Thursday #Today , you’re all nuts & I 🫶 yers ! 😊🫶🐿️🖖

@weirdfolks @actuallyautistic
#WeirdFolks #SquirrelsOfMastodon #TheMammutMoves

Picture an AI cartoon rendition of a squirrel in baseball cap & shades hiking thru the countryside. Thanks to @PlaystationPixy for the AI Whispering 😊

farah , 3 months ago

@MaJ1 @ravensrod @PaulNickson @niamhgarvey @Cbfoley @RosePuckey @peterainbow @harriettmb @actuallyautistic @weirdfolks Did someone say cake??