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anyia

@anyia@lgbtqia.space

Trans girl, poly ace(??). Maker of things. Here for the therapy journal side, and sense of queer community. Does not take herself too seriously, and you probably shouldn't either.

Open to queer followers; hesitant about others.

🐣: 2023-11-08
🧪: 2023-12-11

Books(fantasy/scifi) / story-rich games / software / human nature and commentary there on. Transhumanism.

Syndication outside of the fediverse not consented to. No Meta, no BlueSky, no X.
#nobridge #nobot

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    @alice 🫂 offered

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    @alice @sydney uwu!

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    @alice That looks so tranquil! :floofBlep:

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    Went to a sushi lunch with my mom today, and she had a gift for me. It's a pretty sweet hoodie, and bless her she's trying 🩷

    She said "I didn't know what any of the colors mean, but I liked the message".

    For those wondering, the flags are L, G, B, T, and Pansexual.

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    @alice @internet_ryan Looks like it could be a custom logo job from here: https://www.portandcompany.com/p/8066_DkHtGry#

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    @alice @catsalad the peanut gallery has been wondering about that...

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    I feel personally attacked.

    Image credit Imgur.

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    @Autumn yeah... that's one to unpack later 😅

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    My new earrings arrived!!! I'm so excited 😁

    Thank you @LockEx 💜💕

    See them in action: https://lgbtqia.space/@alice/112600348370144113

    Get 'em here: https://www.lockpickextreme.com/product/lockpick-earrings-pride-heart/

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    "This is the lock picking @alice and what I've got for you today..."

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    @alice hinged ones are mean...

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    @alice Can sadly only offer virtual 🫂, but they are, indeed, on offer. 🫂

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    My garden needed some love, so here it is.

    1/?

    Ground cover with little white flowers.
    Purple and white flowers.
    White foxglove.

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    @alice wet. dirty. tired. in a good way. Out of context you'd think @catsalad was involved... 😇

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    @alice 🤯 invoice them for repair costs! (No idea of you can get away with it, but sheesh!)

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    @alice we'd better all appreciate them while we can then - they do look fabulous! 💜

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    @alice going strong! 💖

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    @alice now you've got me wondering if industrial diamond dust could be used - that should abrade everything else instead 😂

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    @alice yeah it's ridiculous cheap for what it is. I think it's even cheaper than ruby dust (but I haven't checked). Never had cause to buy it loose myself so far.

    And yay back scratches! They'd be intensssse 🫠

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    I’m so sick of electro part 2

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    @alice Galvanic is permanent, once it's a successful "hit". You don't get a 100% hit rate though it's generally pretty high - the skill of your electrologist definitely plays into it.

    Do be prepared for discomfort, and let them know if they have the juice cranked up too high for your tolerance. Overjuicing can leave marks, so you don't want to just "toughen it out" (guess how I know...). And be prepared to be surprised at just how many individual hairs there are 😩

    @JoscelynTransient @rooster

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    My kid and I have a running head-canon that cats are actually higher-dimensional slug monstrosities that our human brains can't fully comprehend.

    The "cats" we know and love are actually an anglerfish-like protrusion that pokes through into our lower-dimensional spacetime.

    The saliva they coat themselves in contains a mild hallucinogen which produces a calming effect that helps mask their true natures, so they can lure humans closer to feed off the kinetic energy of headpats.

    #HeadCanon #Stories #Cats #Eldritch #Horror

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    @alice (I want to) Iä! Iä! Iä!

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    Hey Internet Queerdos and Allies,

    It's :_gaysparkle: Pride :_gaysparkle: month, which means it's time to bring on the corporate rainbow washing!

    Before we get started, here's a content warning () for some swearing, dark topics, and a lot of :100_gay: If that's alright with you, then let's goooo!

    Okay, so it's been an interesting past year. The Cass report came out and helped roll back trans rights in some pretty serious ways, the conservative Right kept right on proving to be downright 💩 humans, there's at least one genocide threatening people's right to exist, and billionaires continued to exercise their (money-given) right to make everything worse for everyone but them. Rights have been a big topic lately.

    Oh, and I almost threw myself off a bridge several months back—but we'll get to that in a moment.

    Fuck. I need some rainbow-safe brain-bleach before we continue, so here are some good things that happened:

    I traded in my old gender for a shiny new one :v_trans: (technically I just binned the old one—it was pretty outdated). Speaking of dating, I started seeing a lovely enby (hi @catsalad!) from the infosec community. All the people I do safety checks with are still here, and Trump became an official felon 🎉

    Alright, that's a bit better. Now on to the actual point of this article: acceptance, community, and safety.

    Those three things are right up there with staying hydrated and memes when I think about what any queer person needs to thrive.

    Acceptance is a prerequisite for community. Our diversity of experience is just as important as our shared experience. Without being accepting of what makes us each unique and wonderful, our communities are fragile and prone to fracturing. You only have to look at those who try to define what a "real man" or "real woman" is to see how they draw circles around their in-group that get smaller and smaller until no one fits.

    Community breeds safety. You may snap a twig with your bare hands, but bind 'em together and you'll find a fagot much harder. Members of our community support each other—and that support becomes so much more important when our queer friends and family run up against the bigotry and horrors of this world. But we're not just one community; we're an alphabet soup of people who come together under the LGBTQIA+ umbrella. Regardless of the specifics, we're the ones who weren't born with the default settings...and that's beautiful—that's worth protecting.

    So what about the bridge? Well, like so many people who identify as LGBTQ+, I had a lot of trauma growing up. Trauma that I continue to collect and box up like newly caught Pokémon. There are a lot of sources of that trauma for me: tech-industry layoffs, an abusive partner, neuro-divergence, as well as non-conforming gender and sexuality in a world whose motto might as well be "Of the Default, by the Default, and for the Default".

    This all came together one day after a fight with my spouse that left me in a very dark place. I didn't feel safe, I didn't feel like I really belonged to any community, and I didn't feel accepted by those closest to me.

    As I stood on the bridge, I got a notification on my phone...then another. It was enough to snap me out of it for a second, and I checked my messages through the tears. Thinking back I honestly don't remember who they were from or what they said, but I do remember that they were from Mastodon, from a couple people who just happened to reach out at the exact right moment. I'll skip the rest of the details, because some of you have already heard this story and they're not really important to this article.

    The important part is that I made it home in one piece because someone reached out. Someone who didn't even know how much I needed them to.

    That little tie to the queer community was all it took to ground me in the moment and save my life.

    Since then I've been keeping an eye out for others that might need grounding and doing my best to make sure they feel accepted. I've been welcoming as many new people into the community as I can, and I've been trying my best to be a safe space for anyone who needs it.

    So, wrapping this up, I want to ask you to do the same. Not just today, but every day—as often as you can. Sometimes all it takes is showing a little kindness and compassion to make a big difference in someone's life.

    Now if you'll excuse me, I'm going to go check in on some people and tell them how glad I am that they're here.

    —Alice Watson 💜

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    @alice 🫂💜

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    @alice Sweet dreams!

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    Here's a fun question for you!

    Imagine you get to pick the details of your next dream, but it must involve you being an animal in your dream.

    You may pick these dream details:
    🌟 What animal you are (anything animal-related counts, including dragons, hybrids, mythical creatures, or anything else!).
    🌟 Where you are located (this place can be fictional).
    🌟 What you are doing (you can be doing realistic or magical/dreamlike things, up to you!).

    You can tell me your answers if you like, or just think about your dream details for funsies! As long as you're enjoying yourself, I'm happy. :D

    💙💙💙

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    @alice @catsalad You two are so adorable I just want to squeeee :Blobhaj_Ani_Hearts:

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    @alice Yeah that much skittles will definitely do you in!

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    @alice for me, the T is absolutely a welcome place for non-binary. Trans to me is more along the literal meaning of "beyond" the cis normative. But I can absolutely see the point of those who feel the T still carries binary assumptions and don't want to associate with it. Each to their own 😊

    As an aside, saying "hella queer" is hella cute 😉

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    @alice @insidertreat Alice, I can't help but feel like your opsec is turning into slopsec... 💜

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    @alice You're making a most compelling argument for adopting a slopsec approach

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    Momma Cat looks like she's enjoying the club music on #Caturday.

    #NeedsAudio

    Momma Cat bobbing along to the head scritches.

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    @alice this sent me down a Ievan Polka sized rabbit hole... 🙃

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    @alice nite, sweet dreams

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    @alice wasn't me, but maybe you'd enjoy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BQ5ecQCbD5k too?

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    @alice so... that's a nay you did not enjoy it? Or was it a topical hit?

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    @alice Ah, excellent, excellent 😅

    How funny would it be if it was one of OpenAI's "offerings" that could be convinced to initiate that...

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    Me trying to fall asleep when it's past my bedtime and I know I'll get less than 8 hours.

    #CatsOfMastodon #Cats #Silly #Eepy

    White and black cat in a cat hammock, frantically flipping around to get comfy.

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    @alice @Willow I mean, personally I'm a bit jealous that you have a cage...

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    @alice enjoy the cozy bed!

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    @alice brightly coloured hair is like an open invitation for compliments!

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    @alice it's such a win-win when you get to do that! Both giver and receiver get a boost for the day! But having been male presenting most of my life, I've always felt like I've needed to be ultra careful things don't come off as unwanted/with-ulterior-motive. The only "safe ones" have been hair related, since it's bleeding obvious I appreciate hair for its looks, being quite colourful myself 🙃

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    @alexadeswift oof, I hear you on the alopecia side - I too have an unpleasant amount of "vacated space". I'm taking a gamble on a course of PRF treatments before I reach for the transplant option. Any eepy follicles that can wake up will be better than just moving others from elsewhere. Not daring to hope for much though.

    Pink and blue sounds amazing! I tried doing pink once, but it just wouldn't take for me. Wishing you better luck!

    (apologies for transing up your happy post, @alice 😅)

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    @alice try Thor tomorrow

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    🙄 my cat can be so immature sometimes.

    #CatsOfMastodon #LesbiansBehavingBadly

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    @alice rofl 🤣

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    @alice the hashtag really cinched it for me

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    @alice Wait, game AIs still cheat?? A long time ago I was tinkering together a save-game editor for Civ1, and it was such a downer to discover that the opponents cheated like there was no tomorrow. No cash and no ongoing Wonder construction, yet next turn you build it? Boo hiss! I moved on from Civ shortly after that discovery.

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    @alice Colour me disappointed. Again. 😞

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    @alice it sounds like it should also include some sort of interface so @catsalad can provide response feedback. More fun for everyone?

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    @alice @catsalad and maybe a "love you too" button to soften the blow of the first one being used? 🤷‍♀️

    (wait, how did I end up in a UX thread? I don't do UX!)

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    @alice 🤦‍♀️

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    @alice wait, no, air horn on your end in response to "knock it off, Alice" would actually work. 👍

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    @alice please don't tell your cats it came from me :blobcatsweat:

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    My cat used to be pretty edgy, but then they settled down a bit.

    #CatsOfMastondon #CatsOfInfosec #Cats

    Cat and bed mid-fall.

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    @alice_watson I dream of being that comfortable!

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    PSA: @catsalad is awesome (and :Fire_Pansexual: af).

    If you agree (or are willing to take my word for it) like/boost or say something to make Cat blush in the replies. It'll be fun.

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    @alice @catsalad aww ☺️ .... 😳

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    So...I have a tall cupboard.

    In this cupboard, on the top shelf is a huge bag of steel-cut oatmeal.

    This morning I tried to access said oatmeal.

    The bag split.

    Now my whole kitchen has oatmeal.

    My pockets have oatmeal.

    My hair has oatmeal.

    My cats have oatmeal.

    Everything is oatmeal...

    There is no god.

    #Oatmeal #FML

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    @alice @seindal 🤣 Well played, I did NOT see that one coming! 🤣

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    @alice @seindal I'm sure your partner appreciates that 😇

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