@alice this is certainly not my place so feel free to tell me to get bent, but this person doesn’t seem very good for you. I have limited information and it still seems quite obvious.
It always hurts so much more when it comes from someone we love.
I'm so sorry that this happened to you.
You are always such a ray of sunshine on here and you make so many random internet people happy.
I hope that your partner stops this behaviour very soon.
Damn this is actually hard writing to a complete stranger, but know you are awesome and appreciated. And I hope your partner starts appreciating you more.