If you had to give one piece of advice that is pretty much universally applicable, what would it be?

I wouldn't dare defile Douglas Adam's memory by not mentioning that you should keep a towel with you at all times, but my second contender is a surprisingly short three-parter:

  1. never lie.
  2. never tell the whole truth.
  3. never pass up a chance to use a real bathroom.
bestusername ,
@bestusername@aussie.zone avatar

Get a VPN and pirate everytime!

umbrella ,
@umbrella@lemmy.ml avatar

cant stress this enough.

they will always find a way to screw you for your money, don't play their game.

AtariDump ,

https://lemmy.world/pictrs/image/bab01d97-1cab-4a7e-a185-81701c53b0b8.jpeg

Nemo ,

Slow is smooth and smooth is fast.

knobbysideup ,
@knobbysideup@sh.itjust.works avatar

Ride smooth not fast has won me some mountain bike races.

Nemo ,

I first heard it in the context of carpentry, but I've since heard it in kitchens as well.

Soup ,

“Fast” is the biggest number in a straight line. Life rarely offers straight lines.

umbrella ,
@umbrella@lemmy.ml avatar

you can be skilled at cornering too, that will make you faster on them

Soup ,

It’s true, but you need the skill, and buying an expensive car will only get you so far.

intensely_human ,

Every line is straight in a subset of coordinate systems.

scrubbles ,
@scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech avatar

Confidence isn't about being confident but acting confident. Act confident and life will be a lot easier.

witty_username ,

Except if you want to do good science. Good scientists will identify false confidence and will aim to steer well clear of it

Potatos_are_not_friends ,

Scientists ideally shouldn't apply rules of thumb to their research!

InternetPerson ,

*Except if you want to do good science. Good scientists will identify false confidence and will aim to steer well clear of it

If someone isn't already doing that, they're not scientists.

0_0j ,
@0_0j@lemmy.world avatar

Yessir!

intensely_human ,

Faking confidence means running your life as a con job.

It’s better to acknowledge when you feel insecure, find the root reason why, and then develop solutions to the unsolved problems giving you that lack of confidence.

For some people it’s as simple as their pelvis being out of whack. In some cases, all you need is a rolfing session.

InternetPerson ,

Fake it until you make it?

OttoVonNoob ,

Think before you speak, I speak without thinking and it's got me in trouble for petty things. Using WE over YOU is extremely valuable.. even when you had nothing to do with the problem it is OUR problem.

Azzu ,
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"We" should vacuum the house! *wink* *wink*

intensely_human ,

I’ve found that one of the best ways to ensure I think before I speak, is to pause before I speak.

Potatos_are_not_friends ,

A wise teacher told me to carry a bottle of water, always.

Nobody will stop you from taking a sip, which is really an excuse to pause.

Mrkawfee ,

Listen or act like you're listening. People love the validation that comes with being given undivided attention. The opposite is also true.

BertramDitore ,
@BertramDitore@lemmy.world avatar

This is great advice. It’s not difficult once you get good at it; but there’s nothing quite like the feeling of being in a real two-way conversation where you know the other person is actually listening to what you’re saying, not just hearing the sounds. I feel like I can count on both hands the number of real conversations I’ve had where I felt truly respected and heard.

intensely_human ,

But also actually listen because if people uncover your acting like listening routine, they’ll hate you for it

useyourmainfinger ,

Do not, and I can't stress this enough! Put your dick, in crazy..

ExhaleSmile ,

But I can fix them!!!

frunch , (edited )

↖️This is the real life pro-tip right here

tias ,

...at least, not until after the vasectomy.

theshatterstone54 ,

proceeds to get std

intensely_human ,

STDs got nothing on a lifetime of emotional abuse

livus ,

That usrname tho. What you just said hits different.

0_0j ,
@0_0j@lemmy.world avatar

Lol this got me

BroncosBuck99 ,

Be kind

ininewcrow ,
@ininewcrow@lemmy.ca avatar

Simple and to the point, everyone should know and follow this. One of the best pieces of advice from the Dalai Lama

"Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them."

TheAnonymouseJoker ,

Dalai Lama also wanted to tongue kiss a little boy on camera. What else can we learn from him? Getting on CIA payroll and selling away morals?

InternetPerson ,

If someone says X, but does Y, this doesn't mean they are not right about X.

Other example, if someone is raising public awareness about littering in nature and is then caught throwing a plastic bottle into a forest, does that mean they are wrong?

Sure, it's shitty, but that doesn't make them wrong in saying that people shouldn't do it, even if they are not living up to their own words.

TheAnonymouseJoker ,

Bet there are some lessons we could learn from Hitler, Goebbels and Churchill too! I do not trust a CIA sellout pedophile. I will get my life lessons from elsewhere, because there is nothing unique to what he has ever said.

InternetPerson ,

You do you. :)

RizzRustbolt ,

I prefer the words of the Dalton Lama: "Be nice. Until it's time ... to not be nice."

ConstipatedWatson ,

Rewind

Rusty ,

No matter how kind you are, the German children are kinder.

TheLameSauce ,

Never take time for granted - expect you'll have less of it than you want or need.

It can really help with getting priorities straight - whether that's with work or with your personal life. Where is it exactly you want to spend the most valuable and limited resource you have?
Your time?

Ziggurat ,

Take your time, slow and steady is faster than quick and dirty

SuiXi3D ,
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Tell that to literally every company that produces anything.

NickwithaC ,
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[Nintendo has entered the chat]

uberdroog ,
@uberdroog@lemmy.world avatar

Guard your credit.

card797 ,

Enjoy it while it lasts.

JoMiran ,
@JoMiran@lemmy.ml avatar

Hydrate. Stick to water.

umbrella ,
@umbrella@lemmy.ml avatar

kidney stones are NOT nice.

drink water removed, your body needs that shit

Potatos_are_not_friends ,

My wife, who gave two births, was in a car accident and fought through hell to survive, still rate kidney stones as the most painful thing in her life.

I said would she rather take a bullet to the leg? She said she'd take two over a kidney stone.

All of this can be resolved just by drinking water.

essell ,

Anyone who wants to tell you what is right and what is wrong does not have your best interests at heart, they have their own.

Soup ,

Question: Is being a good listener about not speaking or about making sure the other person feels heard and understood no matter how that might present itself for that individual?

When you think about who you want to be be as vague as possible. Too specific and you might pigeon-hole yourself. It will be much easier to adjust bad surface level habits and ideas when they haven’t cemented themselves as core to your sense of being.

Chase the “why” more than the “what” and you’ll be able to be more versatile. You might find yourself to be kinder, stronger, more supportive, and be able to really trust in who you are at your core.

intensely_human ,

Somebody important … like an actor.

Whatever you wish, Mr Regan.

Soup ,

What?

mydude ,

No-one has ever said on their deathbed, "I only wish I worked more"

PeterLossGeorgeWall ,

I like to turn that one around and say: nobody says on their death bed that they regret spending so much time with their kids.

Liz , (edited )

I know of at least one person who might have actually said that, were he not busy working from the hospital when he died. People don't say that because no one who enjoys working somehow failed to find work to do.

mydude ,

I'm not sure what you're saying, but if a person worked with saving other peoples lives, then perhaps I could be wrong.

InternetPerson ,

I don't think that this makes it wrong. As I see it, the meaning of your advice is to prioritize self-care over work. It surely helps with mental and physical health. And I think this also applies to people saving lifes of others like medical doctors. They are also still people, they can also suffer from that kind of work. And I always prefer a doctor who thinks about getting enough sleep and quality time in life over someone who drives themselves mad and makes themselves sick by burdening the whole world on their shoulders.

If they can't help themselves, how can they help me?
Or, 101 of car crashes, first save yourself before you attempt to save others.

There are also others who help. It's not one single person's job to save everyone.

Liz ,

What I meant is that there are people who genuinely enjoy their work above all else. Those are the people who might say they wished they spent more time at work. However, there is rarely anything keeping them from work that they don't also value. If a person enjoys working, there's very little preventing them from working.

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