RBWells

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RBWells ,

Water with electrolytes? I got unflavored electrolyte drops for times I fast, and for my kid who has to do band camp in the summer here. You can get flavored ones too, I don't like them. Dilute them more than the bottle says to, sometimes a splash of lemon.

Topo Chico and orange juice is great, if you are just looking for something that tastes good.

Ask your doctor if it's safe for you to take creatine, that certainly helps muscles retain water.

RBWells ,

This hasn't happened for me in the last 35 years, but if I am, say, on vacation? I like to read books, exercise, eat at restaurants.

If you are feeling isolated, it's really good to go get coffee at the same place everyday. We tend to discount the value of weak social connections, but they are the glue that holds humanity together.

RBWells ,

I miss the non-porn nudes threads, Normalnudes and NakedProgress, the ones with an "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything" policy where people of all body types could show their shape and/or their fitness progress.

RBWells ,

I hate ketchup as a sauce or spread, don't mind it as an ingredient but it's way too fucking sweet to put on anything.

Mayonnaise for sandwiches, with mustard or horseradish.

Hot sauce for eggs, beans or French fries (chips) . The salsa yucateca if I want hot without sour, Tabasco if I want sour; hot chili garlic paste if I want flavor bomb.

RBWells ,

I don't think it needs one, and no idea if you mean existence of everything, or a single human life. But for my single human life my goal is to enjoy being physically embodied while I am, experience things using this body and its built-in equipment. All the things that will be impossible to do once dead, all the stuff you couldn't do before you were born. See things, move, dance, read, fuck, eat, hurt, feel everything. Think about things. Now while I am alive in a body that can do all that stuff.

RBWells ,

Glad to meet you, Mr. Morningstar and I guess you'd be an authority on this. I agree, consciousness is the universe experiencing itself. And no, I don't need a favor, thanks!

RBWells ,

And lot size in football fields, a 1500 square foot 3 bed 2 bath on 1/4 of a football field.

RBWells ,

I'm 56.

Mostly I think younger guys trust me and see me more as a safe authority than fuckable (mostly) so I can relax around them, not worried. But there are still catcalls and shit, I fully expect to be 90 and have someone yell "lookin' spry, grandma!". Don't think that is actually about how you look, those guys are relentless.

My trajectory may be different from most, I was a very skinny tall girl in a world where that was most assuredly not seen as sexy, so I didn't feel pretty as a young woman, nor did most guys see me as sexy. There were some creepy old guys into it but that sure didn't make me feel sexy at all. Also my ex liked me 'despite' my lack of curves. Fast forward 25 years, we split and in the meantime, the world had changed, the smaller boobs and lean body held up and more guys my age were into my looks, it took some time to adjust but I actually feel more attractive and sexy in my mid 50s than I did in my 20s or 30s. Don't look better in an absolute sense (if I could have been young now, I mean, with the wider beauty standards) but in relation to my peers, definitely better now.

RBWells ,

Huh. I don't live in that world I guess. A wall? For women but not men? Ha ha ha! Here, women are mostly holding up much better as far as I can tell.

Fertility - wise, what you say makes more sense, if you want a family better to start before 30 if you can, it's easier on your body, and probably the origin of that wall nonsense. Having my last one at nearly 40 was not hard, but a first one that old is riskier.

What mundane things of our era could be seen as beautiful or admirable in the future?

For example, buildings and houses more than a hundred years old keep getting more and more rare, and often have an aesthetic that stands out, more ornate or with a particular style that most people can't afford today or that is not financially convenient etc. But back in the day, that's how things were built and most people...

RBWells ,

I think probably yes; there are lovely housewares and glassware being made now, bottles for wines and liquors are not standard and some are really pretty, also a lot of the kitchen appliances currently have pretty nice design.

RBWells ,

Yes, a few.

Even if you see many, it doesn't seem odd to only remember 5 though. I was on Reddit for like 9 years and would only have recognized a handful of usernames.

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30 is too old to date a girl, yes. Not too old to date a woman though.

RBWells ,

Wouldn't you know that, then?

RBWells ,

I am an accountant and cannot even begin to count the number of people who asked me to do their taxes. I do not do tax accounting, never have, it's a whole separate department where I work, and at every job I've worked. I'm not sure the tax people even think of themselves as accountants.

RBWells ,

I am in sports now, we are international but employ consultants for international tax stuff. It's way too complicated. Our internal tax department does do some of the financial planning, yes, tax minimizing schemes as you say, working with the legal department. They also do some general reconciling of the tax liability accounts, sales tax and VAT on merch, that part is accounting but the planning stuff is more like legal work than finance.

RBWells ,

Not unusual but accountant in a private company. Accounting, like IT, is great because you can work at just about any company. Though to be fair I do some IT like most accountants, there is overlap since so much of the systems work is accounting systems, I'm sure the IT guys feel they are doing some accounting.

RBWells ,

Khruangbin.

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And if the therapy aligns with their physical gender? No treatment for a girl who goes through puberty too young? Nothing for a girl of 17 who is worried because she hadn't started "developing" or gotten her period? Nothing for a boy who isn't going through male puberty, or starts it at 5? Intersex kids who are mis-assigned at birth and panic as adolescents?

Yes the therapies are not without risk, but doing nothing is also not without risk. The only reason doctors will prescribe puberty blockers is if the kids are suffering, otherwise the "care" that is getting outlawed is counseling. I have a trans kid and the doctor prescribed counseling but they can't get it because the clinics aren't allowed to "treat" the transgendered now.

RBWells ,

Tylenol (paracetamol).

Literally never does anything but make me feel slightly poisoned, and there is still no clear explanation of how it "works".

RBWells ,

I called my standing desk a dancing desk. Didn't just stand there. I don't have one now we are back in the office though, some people do but they are all short - I'm taller and it seems too odd to be looking into everyone's workspace.

RBWells ,

https://medicine.tufts.edu/news-events/news/how-does-acetaminophen-work

Has there been progress since 2022 on figuring out its pain killing mechanism? If it just didn't work for headaches I would understand, mine are migraine and no painkillers work for those, but it has not worked on anything I tried it for, I gave up years ago. It's not even that safe, I don't understand why it's still around.

RBWells ,

DC because they have some more imaginative stories under smaller labels. Looking at my shelf, most of mine are Image Comics, but Vertigo is (was?) a DC label and some of my favorite stories are in those books.

RBWells ,

What a good list, and I will add Mike Carey.

I do read mostly the indies because it's just too much work for too little payoff to try to follow a mainstream series, and I'm way more into sci fi & fantasy (and fantastical not realistic horror) than superhero stuff. I wait for each season to be collected into a paperback then get it. There is so much out there.

RBWells ,

I think there should be pedestrian, bike routes separate from cars, like storefronts should face both ways, and the intersections with signals, but where practical should have bridges for the walkers, so they don't have to deal with the cars.

I also really want replicator tech, want to be able to use any input to get basically any output, at least in terms of materials. Throw in the trash, it is sorted into its component elements (safely) and then those can be combined to make clean water, salt water, building materials, whatever.

I want also a floor and walls that eat the dirt, and clothing fabric that can cool even in humidity.

Colorado Republican Brutally Grilled By Local News Anchor: ‘Why Is Abortion Good For Your Girlfriend? Bad For Other Women?’ ( www.mediaite.com )

Colorado congressional candidate and sitting State Rep. Richard Holtorf (R) received a tough grilling this week at the hands of local 9News anchor Kyle Clark over his apparent hypocrisy when it comes to abortion rights....

RBWells ,

These people drive me crazy. I never had an abortion because I think it's creepy as fuck but I don't think my experience should define everyone else's, these men are evil. If a lady has to have an abortion, she has to. Nobody wants to, and they want to heap shame on top of that, but literally will NEVER have to make that choice because they are men. Fuck off.

RBWells ,

Sometimes if you get ALL the way in front, you are in front of the speakers so they are pointed away from you, and it's not nearly as loud.

RBWells ,

The fuck does that mean? You can't be you unless you are filled with despair and unpleasantness? Utter nonsense. You changed to get like this, you change every day.

RBWells ,

I do love Chris Evans as Captain America though. His expression of slight disapproval throughout the films is fantastic.

RBWells ,

The Storm X-Men one was pretty bad. And so disappointing because I love the character.

Best ones I think are the second X-Men, Logan, and Into the Spiderverse.

RBWells ,

Large body dominance is different from fine motor handedness, write with right hand but stronger left side, cartwheel left hand first. Or vice versa. It is interesting as heck.

RBWells ,

Probably my dad, he accepted me for who I was as a weird little kid, never pushed for conformity as far as I could tell. He got me grownup books to read when I was little because I read like a grownup. Got me spicy food, talked about economics, the Tao, the poems of Omar Khyam. My mom didn't talk down to me or anything but just didn't really connect because we were so different as people.

He died when I was a teenager, but I have mostly been able to do this for my kids, because it was modeled for me. You are who you are, you don't have to conform or do "normal" things in the usual order to fit in the world, you are part of the world. Doesn't mean it's always comfortable, but that's true for anybody.

Series: Conservatives of Lemmy: What do you think has gone awry in modern society and how might it be constructively addressed?

I'd like to start a series seeking viewpoints from across the political spectrum in general discussions about modern society and where everyone stands on what is not working, what is working, and where we see things going in the future....

RBWells ,

Is this a conservative view? I am in the US and here they are more about individualism and bootstraps.

But yes. I would like a broader definition of family but think people living with other people are almost always better off than people living alone. So much better off. More hands make lighter work, and economy of scale.

RBWells ,

The long arm of the paw!

RBWells ,

Garden, fuck, go to the beach, read, dance, cook and ferment, hang out with people. Probably still work some for money if I needed it to buy stuff like drinks or an e-bike, or to travel, I'm sure we'd still have a money economy of some sort. Same stuff I'd do if I could afford to retire. If I was a few years younger, would foster a kid or two.

Oh, and I'm sure I could live a full and healthy life without paid employment, myself.

RBWells ,

I agree with this. It takes me weeks, if not months, to really unwind.

RBWells ,

Other people seem to think so, but I am not any nicer on the outside than on the inside, not unfailingly polite and certainly get defensive sometimes.

So I am going to say yes because what's on the outside is what I feel in the inside, and people think I am nice.

RBWells ,

And when you get to the end, start looking for the opening and merge, don't slow down or gun it and try to get ahead of five more cars.

RBWells ,

Hmm. I am not convinced I can be much happier for $15 but a coffee for me, split a breakfast sandwich with my husband in the little Cuban cafe near me. Or buy gas and a diet coke and go by myself, alone, to the beach, that is such a relaxing activity.

RBWells ,

Ramsay Midwood

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RBWells ,

My kids taught me to look at subscriber counts on a streaming service to measure popularity, I go to a lot of live shows and kept getting surprised at which bands were popular or unknown, don't have a good handle on it. So that's generally what I do now.

RBWells ,

My mom kept up with her friends from high school and college until she or they died, I cannot.

My dad was ridiculously smart, like could learn anything, keep a lot of knowledge in his head, could look at any idea and really consider it without believing or reacting to it, if that makes sense. I don't have the same fearlessness.

RBWells ,

Purchased? Diet coke.

Homemade - ginger beer, tepache. Glorious.

RBWells ,

Making a ginger bug takes a week or so, once it's going you can park it in the fridge and revive it in a couple of days.

I have a recipe for ginger beer and also for tepache in the non alcoholic post on !cocktails

RBWells ,

Oh that is heartbreaking. Their Limonata one is such a good mixer.

RBWells ,

Not damage but the most entertaining, terrifying, and educational event - I made a mango soda, fermented it with some ginger beer and it was lazy getting fizzy so I bottled, refrigerated and promptly forgot about it. Found it a few weeks later and figured since it wasn't fizzy ok to open.

Mango soda on the floor, walls, ceiling of three adjacent rooms. It exploded up but did not break the glass bottle. The second one I opened outside facing away from me and got to taste the small amount that remained in the bottle - probably the best drink I have ever made, all lost due to my negligence.

RBWells ,

My ex accused me of "muddying his bloodline" when he got radicalized, because I didn't pop out Aryan children. They came out assorted but all were "white", certainly by local standards (how creepy it feels typing that, ick) but by the nonsense he'd absorbed on Stormfront, he (retroactively) expected me to have popped out a string of wee blonde angels.

Other than that, I was the beneficiary of some crazy racism once, got AAA to come tow my car in 4 minutes flat once when I gave the address and the dude thought he was rescuing me from a warzone, because it was in a black neighborhood (we don't have the sharp geographic divisions seen up north but do have blocks and areas that are economically distinct and historically black or white). Usual time for AAA was more like 4 hours.

Worst to me was my scumbag mind's determination to see a man as rough and violent because of his looks, a guy who became a good friend and isn't at all like that, just because his looks are like an actor playing an abusive black dad. Seeing this in myself (I didn't lay it on him, but my own mind got it so wrong) was unsettling.

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It doesn't work that way for me. I have been so cold that clothing didn't make me not cold. Even here where it rarely ever gets to freezing. Hot weather, I can slow down, sitting still in the shade with a breeze I can be comfortable from 90F to about 100F. Don't know about hotter, we haven't reached it yet.

I don't try to do work outside when it's that hot. If daytime event in the sun - hat or visor, long sleeved loose linen shirt and pants, and oddly enough, Merino wool thong and socks are often more comfortable than anything else.

Hot yoga is 90-103 so I guess I can also move in the heat without freaking out but they manage the humidity, it's different from outside. And I sweat a lot in those classes.

Any of these I prefer to being cold, cannot get warm. Maybe I need to talk to Wim Hof, but it seems better to be tolerant of heat, than cold.

RBWells ,

Yeah you have to manage your expectations and also close the shades. But if you are coming in from the heat, the house will feel cool even if it's not cold. Usually with a heat pump (and older not so insulated house) we can comfortably get up to about 20f lower than outside, set it at 78 in summer and it works ok, still seems to manage the humidity inside too.

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