DefiantBidet

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DefiantBidet ,

That thing is me of the year again? The pre summer, heat is here, hurricanes aren't yet but Texas wants to secede time of year that stops once a cat4 pops up?

DefiantBidet ,

OK this is gonna be a long one. And it's not even mine. The original point of what I'm about to post was about losing loved ones to death, but in my lowest parts of dealing with my divorce I found these words very helpful. One of the few good things to come out of reddit. Credit to reddit user GSnow. Here goes.

Alright, here goes. I'm old. What that means is that I've survived (so far) and a lot of people I've known and loved did not. I've lost friends, best friends, acquaintances, co-workers, grandparents, mom, relatives, teachers, mentors, students, neighbors, and a host of other folks. I have no children, and I can't imagine the pain it must be to lose a child. But here's my two cents.

I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don't want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don't want it to "not matter". I don't want it to be something that just passes. My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut, or even gouged, and that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love. And the scar tissue is stronger than the original flesh ever was. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are only ugly to people who can't see.

As for grief, you'll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you're drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it's some physical thing. Maybe it's a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it's a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive.

In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don't even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you'll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what's going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything...and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life.

Somewhere down the line, and it's different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O'Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you'll come out.

Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don't really want them to. But you learn that you'll survive them. And other waves will come. And you'll survive them too. If you're lucky, you'll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks.

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DefiantBidet ,

Al Faranken's Supply Side Jesus comes to mind

DefiantBidet ,

User experience over marketing.

DefiantBidet ,

They want to strip social security to pay for more tax cuts for the top 1%

You have to work more so rich people pay less taxes than you.

DefiantBidet ,

I was unemployed for nearly a year recently. IT work is inundated with talent pool bc of the FAANG downsizing about a year ago. . It's coming back but slowly.

Sounds like you're depressed which has the awesome side effect of altering how you would typically approach and perform in an interview - not in an ideal way. Being cognizant of that may help.
Maybe you're not but I know when I had the numbers you're talking about sending resumes etc, I was pretty down. Each rejection took a little toll.
Maybe try changing your resume up a bit, and practice soft skills for interviewing? Might help take time away from feeling bad about it-which I get.

DefiantBidet ,

Could literally be the meter part if the unit which can be removed and replaced in less than 30s. Push plastic clips, pops off dead meter attach new one. Company now has a more accurate, allegedly, meter on their property you agree to maintain when you buy the house.

DefiantBidet ,

Oh, I'm not certain she doesn't understand. Performative art. She got used to performing in a way her main audience (mango mussolini et al) enjoyed in the no jury case, with state level Judge Engoran - that she thinks she can use the same tricks that make him smile on a federal judge.

To me this is hubris, not ignorance. To be clear there is a fair bit of both, but thus is show work not trial work.

Her inability to properly file evidence is her ignorance. Sass is for show imo.

Supreme Court allows Biden administration to remove razor wire on US-Mexico border in 5-4 vote ( www.cnn.com )

The Supreme Court is allowing US Border Patrol agents to remove razor wire deployed by Texas GOP Gov. Greg Abbott’s security initiative at the US-Mexico border while the state’s legal challenge to the practice plays out....

DefiantBidet ,

for those who wanna know who voted what

In Favor:

  • John Roberts
  • Amy Coney Barrett
  • Sonia Sotomayor
  • Elena Kagan
  • Ketanji Brown Jackson

Dissenting:

  • Clarence Thomas
  • Samuel Alito
  • Neil Gorsuch
  • Brett Kavanaugh

eta the reuters article spells it out : https://www.reuters.com/world/us/us-supreme-court-lets-border-patrol-remove-texas-razor-wire-fencing-now-2024-01-22/

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