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ParabolicMotion OP , in We are so close to getting treatment for my cat.

To all of Blue’s donors, thank you! Donations are still being sent to his fund by some of you, and I am so grateful! I don’t have money to repay you, but if any of you ever need a blood donation, or a bone marrow donation, please email me. Since I thanked all of Blue’s donors by email, they should be able to reach me. You are all wonderful people!

GluWu , in I have been stalked and harassed for at least 11 years

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  • phoukas ,

    That's pretty callous. This is obviously someone in a long-term battle with their mental health. It's not hard to just scroll past instead of leaving a hurtful comment.

    over_clox , in I know this isn't shocking anyone, but I just want to say that Walmart's "Great Value" brand name is a fucking lie. "Worst quality legally possible, for cheap" isn't value— certainly not "great value"

    ALDI doesn't sell clothes, bicycles, appliances, etc...

    mrvictory1 , in I miss text-based tutorials

    Depends on the case. For example for short tutorials that could have been maybe 3 sentences should not be in a video format. However for stuff like jailbreaking a PS3 I would rather use a video tutorial because I will do many things I don't know, one after another. Video will assure me I am doing things correct.

    Emerald ,

    Or just understand what an action does before you try it on your technology

    Anticorp , in I just discovered my wife's secret credit debit

    This is a perfect example of why couples should maintain separate finances. Since she's the only person making money in the household that's impossible. But think about what you're really saying. You're heartbroken and infuriated that she spent her money, that she earned, on things that she wanted. Get some perspective and and realize that she's a grown woman who is financially supporting her family. She doesn't need your permission to spend her own money.

    Isthisreddit ,

    I don't know what bitch ass downvoted you, so here is a upvote. This post is absolutely correct, OP is a bitch ass

    Jarix ,

    Please stop commenting online, you make this a worse place not a better one by being so toxic as to be calling people bitch asses

    Just leave you arent being a good community member, you are cancer

    Isthisreddit ,

    Perhaps people need to stop coddling OP. I don't know if you have ever been in a position where you were the sole person supporting an entire household, it's pretty hard to keep your sanity. OP isn't helping the situation with his tantrum. I'm calling it as I see it, he's being a bitch ass.

    Jarix ,

    Point of contention. Shes not "spending het money" shes spending credit. Shes in debt without telling her married partner of 20 years.

    Hes responisble for that debt as well, so its not about him controlling her earned money.

    This is a trust issue, and since he is unable to earn money thats really fucking shitty of her to hide a thing like this from him. The amount isnt really the issue, he found out about this debt when it was small enough to be managed, but this could be the beginning of a much bigger incident.

    Anticorp ,

    I suppose that's a fair point.

    Jarix ,

    While i disagree with you in general about how you commented, i do believe each person in the relationship should have some form of personal discretionary funds available for whatever frivolous or not spending they want to do.

    But that spending should not affect or effect the other person in the relationship in the way of putting the relationship, or the health and safety of anyone in it at risk.

    Anticorp ,

    You're right, I should have taken the time to phrase it better. I feel strongly that couples should maintain financial dependence if at all possible. Money is the single biggest cause of divorce and there usually isn't a lot of reasons to argue over it if the relationship boundaries are structured correctly, and both partners are honest and respectful. In that I can understand OPs frustration, since he felt that she was keeping this a secret.

    Jarix ,

    And add to that i think the history of debt and bankruptcy cant be dismissed very easily as it adds a lot to the situation.

    Things you and I dont know is what factors other than becoming disabled contributed to the previous debt. But thats for OP to weigh

    Makhno , in Biden is the Democratic nominee against Trump. Get over it.

    Neoliberal tears are almost as tasty as those of a facist

    curiousaur , in I was awarded my 3 gallon award today for blood donations.

    Do you know how much money the blood bank has made off you?

    ParabolicMotion OP , (edited )

    I don’t care. Have you ever been in need of a blood transfusion and been told by a nurse that they don’t have one available in your blood type? I have. I almost died in 2012 from blood loss. I am lucky to be alive today. If some other O- donor would have just been there to help, or had donated a week or so before that day, it would have been an easier recovery. I donate because I know someone in a hospital needs my blood donation to survive. A human life is worth more than the few dollars the blood bank actually makes from my donation. Most of the money from the blood transfusion cost goes towards the medical procedure, the actual process of transporting it, and testing the blood to make sure it’s safe. The blood bank needs to keep operating. It’s not owned by some billionaire. I hope you never need a blood transfusion. It will make you change your priorities if you do.

    curiousaur ,

    It's still exploitation. They're making profit off your generosity. Loads of it. Personally I sell my blood. Still get to help the people in need, but at least it's a more honest transaction.

    givesomefucks , in I have been stalked and harassed for at least 11 years

    Man, I thought the gang stalking community stayed on Reddit?

    Alice , (edited ) in I get irritated when I check out a community and there is no content on it.
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    Do you know how much more annoying it is when you're the only one who actually posts ?

    TehBamski OP ,
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    Actually, I do. That's how all three of the communities I mod for, started out. One is doing well now, getting new content a few times a week, another only gets new content pretty much when I post and the last one is pretty dead.

    Alice ,
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    What about broadcasting lemmy communities ? A community to broadcast them so people can get reminded I guess ?

    Blaze ,
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    I'm going to start a weekly thread on !fediverse to promote some communities

    Alice ,
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    Posted on it ty !

    Emerald , in I miss text-based tutorials

    Be the change you want to see in the world.

    xnx , in I just discovered my wife's secret credit debit
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    Oh man i was expecting $100,000+ debt. $2500 is nothing man im not even 30 with almost $12,000 in credit card debt and this is nothing compared to people with student loans my age.

    Dont sweat it. Talk about it and tell her its okay and she should just mentioned it but its not a $2500 is nothing to fight over

    AlecSadler ,

    I declared bankruptcy for well over $25k in CC debt in my 20's. I don't like that I did, but I'm tens of years beyond that now and better for it.

    A bucks a buck, but I wouldn't ruin my marriage over $2500.

    Communication is key, for sure.

    criitz , in After the past nine years, and having a family, I think I'm sick of California

    Sounds like the common experience of any non-white American, honestly. I hope you find resolution!

    ParabolicMotion OP , in I have been stalked and harassed for at least 11 years

    UPDATE: It could have been unrelated to all of this, but after I was released early from training today, I turned down a rural road to go home, in my vehicle. It was the same road I took to go to training today. I looked back in my mirror, and noticed a vehicle was tailgating me. I didn’t think anything of it, until I saw the lightbar on top of the vehicle. The vehicle tailgating me was law enforcement. I was going the speed limit on that rural road, and so was a truck in front of me.

    The law enforcement vehicle proceeded to tail gate me for over a mile, at a low speed. The vehicle then passed me, pretty much cut me off, and began tailgating the truck in front of me, until turning right, two intersections after tailing him (or her).

    As the law enforcement vehicle turned, I noticed it was a local sheriff’s SUV with a K-9 decal on the rear passenger side. The law enforcement vehicle, did not accelerate. It continued at the same speed that it was going when it was tailgating me, or so it appeared.

    Should I be concerned, or let it go? This is part of the reason why I am hesitant to walk into their office and report my spouse as potentially missing. Just my luck, I will walk in, and be face to face with one of my ex boyfriends from my years spent in high school, and he won’t take any report seriously, or care. He might even make my life a living hell for trying to file a report.

    breadsmasher , (edited ) in Parents won't stop talking about friends' appearances
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    Are they the sort of parents who, in a friendly way, know calling these women your girlfriend bothers you so they like to poke and make fun?

    Nice to have parents who care ☺️

    editn- this was supposed to be a friendly light hearted comment. No idea what happened

    OlPatchy2Eyes OP ,

    No I think they're just old-fashioned. My parents waited a while to have kids; they're in their 60s/70s now, so a bit older than most people are probably imagining. I don't think they actually believe a man and a woman can really be friends, so it's like they're trying to "call it" in a way.

    I definitely wouldn't trade it for parents who didn't give a damn about what I was doing, at any rate. I guess I just wish they were a little more interested in what I'm doing and less interested in who I'm with is all.

    Thanks for the comment/perspective. Not sure what's up with the downvotes on yours in particular.

    M137 , in I was awarded my 3 gallon award today for blood donations.
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    "You donated 3 gallons of blood, here have this fugly glass ball"

    Sorry but man that's an ugly piece. Well done though! The real price is feeling good about doing something good.

    ParabolicMotion OP ,

    They have other awards, but a person needs to reach a higher level of donations to earn those awards. I didn’t think this one looked bad. I think it’s supposed to be an ocean wave encapsulated in a glass sphere. There is another one that looks like a red blood drop and a larger one that looks like a blue rain drop. The last one requires 100 donations, I think.

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