Getting some sleep (sober). I’ve learned that the world seems harsher when I’m tired. After a night or two of good sleep, things feel less of an issue.
Been watching James May's Our Man in India and it's fantastic.
You could also try watching Bluey. Like, unironically it's a fantastic show. Best way I've seen someone put it is that it's a show for adults that children can watch.
Sometimes the only way to deal with bad emotions is to go through them. It's good to take time and recognize your emotions and explore them, if that makes sense. Listening to sad songs might help with that and it helps you feel not alone because someone else feels bad too.
It is important to not dwell too much or else you might turn into a teenage angst version of me and no one wants that.
I usually eat, drink, and watch Youtube until I'm tired and it makes things worse.
Instead, play loud music and do chores, then exercise, then do something productive that you enjoy
Its all about the hopefull and uplifting music, put it on and go for a walk, tell your family you love them, then appologize to someone you feel you let down. Cry, it only means you care. After, eat a nice home cooked meal and re-watch Loki or Guardians of the Galaxy.
Physical exercise to the point of exhaustion then eat and then have a 2hr hot bath. It doesn't solve the problem that made me sad but it "restores" me to a point where I can address the problems.
When I feel like that, it tends to be projection. I’m making myself sad and making my own life more difficult, not anyone else’s. I don’t know if that helps helps, but you probably don’t need much guilt about it.
Do remember- it really is trying to help. Negative self talk really is a useful social animal trait that's just going a bit haywire, so figure out what its trying to do and be nice to it.
Also, pain can be experienced first as emotional distress, especially if its pain you've lived with for a long time, and its just hurting extra bad.
Sometimes its easier to do self-care when you picture it as outside of yourself.
So when you're really feeling like shit, try acknowledging its concerns, rational or irrational, and then tell your little red cat its doing a good job and its safe to take a nap.
It isn't a magic fix, but its an actual process to go through. And that feels better than just stewing.
You are with yourself 100% of the time. You can be a friend to yourself and try to help yourself out or you can kick the crap out of yourself which will not solve anything and in addition will make you miserable. What's done is done, and you've clearly thought a lot about it and found your behavior unacceptable in those instances. You can incorporate those lessons and become a wiser person or you can punish yourself endlessly for your mistakes and get nothing. You aren't good or bad, you are capable of doing good or doing bad.