If you had to give one piece of advice that is pretty much universally applicable, what would it be?

I wouldn't dare defile Douglas Adam's memory by not mentioning that you should keep a towel with you at all times, but my second contender is a surprisingly short three-parter:

  1. never lie.
  2. never tell the whole truth.
  3. never pass up a chance to use a real bathroom.
BonesOfTheMoon ,

Never tie your finances to that of a crazy person.

PolandIsAStateOfMind ,
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Don't eat the yellow snow

CapeWearingAeroplane ,

But it might be beer!

PolandIsAStateOfMind ,
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Possibly, originally...

dessalines ,
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You only rent the beer.

AgainstTheGrain ,

Money is not the only medium of exchange.

clark ,
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Found the Ferengi.

dessalines ,
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Rule of acquisition : A favor is the most powerful type of debt.

stoy ,

never tell the whole truth

This is dumb, and in many cases outright illegal.

If you are giving testamony in court you are required to tell the whole truth regarding the situation.

There are absolutely other times when you should tell the whole truth, so this statement is just dumb.

untorquer ,

Even in court you have to use some judgment to determine what the whole truth is, under what context, and to the extend of your memory or a reasonable expectation of enforcement of the idea.

There's also limitation with self incrimination/5th.

But as a generality, omitting information on socials, whatever registration form, etc... In everyday life is a reasonable practice for preserving privacy.

Being dishonest with friends & family is messed up tho.

stoy ,

A partner having a rule to say that you should NEVER tell the whole truth would be an instant red flag in any relationship I am in.

The fact that that kind of rule exists for them means that they will never be completely honest with me, and I won't accept that.

Now, obviously, there are times when you use a white lie or omit stuff, that is normal, but to constantly omit stuff, to the point where a rule is needed?

Nope.

untorquer , (edited )

I actually agree! Mutual trust relies on clear, full communication to the extent of one's abilities.

I think the problem with the original statement is the absolute "never" which i defaulted to taking as a generality when interacting with impersonal third parties. This was an unreasonable assumption in my part.

Fir example, I'm going to lie to Facebook and Google. Period. But never to friends and SOs, and rarely to individual humans outside of survival in threatening circumstances.

ShittyBeatlesFCPres ,

Be athletic, assertive, and able to master at least one form of swordsmanship. Only then can you take down the one who killed your father.

My life might be different than yours. But several kung fu movies are about that so I’m not sure if it’s universal or just me.

Potatos_are_not_friends ,

My long winded talk about the various types of sword fighting is what got me my current job.

So now that's two people on the Internet that believe this!

dotslashme ,

Nothing lasts. It goes for good days, but also bad days.

mitrosus ,

Some things last over my lifetime, and that's "lasts" enough.

essell ,

Anyone who wants to tell you what is right and what is wrong does not have your best interests at heart, they have their own.

untorquer ,

Learn to recognize when you're responding defensively to a statement made by those around you.

-There wrong about me, they're the problem

- I'm fine i don't bed to listen to that

- etc...

Think about it for a few days, once you're over the initial emotional reaction. Be critical of your own response and contemplate the motivation for the statement

- is it out of care for you or manipulation

- Is it honest or malicious? 

- Are they expressing a need?

That's when you have the greatest opportunity to grow as a person and build deeper relationships. It's also when you have an opportunity to break your mindset and get out of malicious ones.

Simulation6 ,

Never pass up an opportunity to sit down or relieve yourself.
95% of everything is crap, so appreciate it when you find the 5%.

InternetPerson ,

Still looking for it.

kromem ,

Being a Jack of all trades may mean being a master of none, but it's still better than to be a master of one.

Potatos_are_not_friends ,

I frequently have to teach people about being T-shaped.

spittingimage ,
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Never borrow money from a man whose first name is "The" and never gamble with a man whose first name is a city.

Potatos_are_not_friends ,

But I need $600k to pay Jersey City Steve and "The Raven" has a history of being fair with his loans.

TheLobotomist ,
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Mind your business

jaschen ,

Care about yourself first and then care about others after.

Esp true if the oxygen mask falls down on a flight.

sunbeam60 ,

Your own feelings matter too.

doleo ,

give up

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