@RolloTreadway i'm sorry, that's so hard. i think so many of us have food issues in one way or another, allergies aside.
and i'm very sorry about your dad too :blobcatverysad:
i know someone who uses hello fresh, which definitely takes some of the stress away, but it's also not cheap, so not an option for most people.
but sandwiches are infinitely better than nothing or biscuits!
re the buying stuff, ugh that's tricky. are there any staples that you know you'll need, and then you could maybe just kind of fill in the rest based on how you feel? can you get deliveries? maybe a few smaller ones would be better than having to do it all at once?
(i'm sorry, the useless help of a stranger is maybe not welcome. but it might spark an idea?)
i hope you can find a way forward that keeps the anxious at bay and doesn't use too many spoons.