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RolloTreadway

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Autistic Welsh NHS emergency care quality improvement person.
(they/them or he/him - those are familiar enough and will do.)

Most important:
Trans rights are human rights; Black lives matter; Tories always despise you even if they pretend not to.

Enthusiastic about woodland, cricket, silent film, constitutional stuff, birds, gardens, tea, sandwiches, music.

(Profile pic: Buster Keaton sits unhappily in a steamship funnel; header is a glass teapot full of leaves.)

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TheBreadmonkey , to random
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Being super unkind to someone secretly in my head right now. I'm really giving it to them both barrels. They're getting super zinged and they don't even know it. Honestly, I feel quite bad about it.

RolloTreadway ,
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@TheBreadmonkey I'm sure they deserve it, though. Unless it's me.

RickiTarr , to random
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I'm not sure if I'm about to get propositioned, murdered, or go home with a discount on some pork chops...

RolloTreadway ,
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@RickiTarr The Meat Department? Why do men insist on coming up with so many different names for their penis?

RolloTreadway , to random
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Today's stage of the Tour de France is starting on Gruissan - where I went on holiday last year and intend to go on holiday this year!

Isn't that nice?

Admittedly, they'll only be there about 30 seconds as they head out along the coast. But still. Nice for them to be somewhere familiar.

RolloTreadway OP ,
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@DavidTanner I think much of the southwest - save for a few big tourist draws like Carcassonne - are little known to non-French people.

davidallengreen , to random
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Woke up in middle of night and went back to sleep by ranking 1-100 as follows

One: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 8, 9, 10, 12

Two: 7, 13, 14, 15, 16, 18, 19, 20, 30, 40, 50, 60, 80, 90, 100

Three: 11, 17, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 28, 29, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 38, 39, 41, 42, 43, 44, 45, 46, 48, 49, 51, 52, 53, 54, 55, 56, 58, 59, 61, 62, 63, 64, 65, 66, 68, 69, 70, 81, 82, 83, 84, 85, 86, 88, 89, 91, 92, 93, 94, 95, 96, 98, 99

Four: 27, 37, 47, 57, 67, 71, 72, 73, 74, 75, 76, 78, 79, 87, 97

Five: 77

RolloTreadway ,
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@davidallengreen I'm now wondering how you manage to pronounce 'one hundred' with two syllables. Is it a Brum thing?

sheepnik , to random
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Oh boy, work stuff has just got interesting.

RolloTreadway ,
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@sheepnik I hope it's not the bad kind of interesting, so I'm going to assume that your work is now enthralling and entrancing and brings you much joy.

RolloTreadway ,
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@sheepnik Ahh. I did wonder if the political shenanigans were going to affect you.

Richard_Littler , to ActuallyAutistic group
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I've been trying to learn German for years but progress is glacially slow. Sometimes it's like trying to nail water to the wall; it just doesn't stick. Anyone else with an , or diagnosis have issues with second language acquisition? Is it a neurodivergent 'thing'?
Or is it simply that I'm not very good at picking up languages?

@actuallyautistic
@actuallyadhd

RolloTreadway ,
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@Richard_Littler @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd What I have always struggled with, including when I was learning languages regularly in school, is understanding what people are saying to me. Reading, writing, and to an extent speaking, I do much better with those - providing I get to use them fairly regularly - but listening is an eternal challenge.

Given I also frequently find it difficult to understand English speakers, I think this might well be an autistic thing.

KatyElphinstone , to random
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A test.

Name me three famous Black female actors.




RolloTreadway ,
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@KatyElphinstone Any three in particular? Will Thandiwe Newton, Amandla Stenberg and Sheila Atim do? I think they're all fantastic.

babe , to random
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RolloTreadway ,
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@babe I just disturbed my garden's own fat pigeon whilst he was having a very nice bath, and I feel so guilty.

FlockOfCats , to random
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The store had rhubarb.

I’ve never used before and not sure if I’ve had it before. But I’m getting some since I might never see it at the store again 🙃

What should I make that’s easy??

RolloTreadway ,
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@FlockOfCats Crumble would be the obvious choice where I'm from (although I'm personally not a fan). Something like this: https://www.bbc.co.uk/food/recipes/rhubarbcrumble_11396

DJDarren , to random
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IN ONE, IN ONE

Framed
🎥 🟩 ⬛ ⬛ ⬛ ⬛ ⬛

https://framed.wtf

RolloTreadway ,
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@DJDarren Same here. Instantly recognisable if you know that kind of thing.

RolloTreadway , to random
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Morning all. Hoping that I don't have to add even more words to my filters today.

RolloTreadway OP ,
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@sheepnik Not great, and very tired. Going to try to muddle though and desperately hope that nobody at work feels the need to contact me about anything.

How's your day looking?

RolloTreadway OP ,
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@sheepnik Sounds like it could be exhausting. Fingers crossed that the MOT goes okay. When I used to drive, I'd spend months dreading that day.

RolloTreadway OP ,
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@DavidTanner It would be nice if people could be consistent about how they word things, or use the same hashtag every time perhaps.

RolloTreadway OP ,
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@moonrabbit Very tired here. Dealing with new boss is stressing me a lot. How are you?

RolloTreadway OP ,
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@moonrabbit No, I haven't done anything yet. Trying to hide from it. But will have a meeting with new boss a week on Thursday. I'm hoping that nothing will happen between now and then.

Poor Pia! I hope she feels better soon. And I hope you do get a good night's sleep tonight.

RickiTarr , to random
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I saw this posted on Tumblr, and the comments were very angry, and admittedly I was thrown by the title at first too. I read through it though, and couldn't find a lie, this is just stuff a good Relationship Therapist would tell you:

What I mean when I say "toxic monogamy culture"

the normalization of jealousy as an indicator of love

the idea that a sufficiently intense love is enough to overcome any practical incompatibilities

the idea that you should meet your partner's every need, and if you don’t, either you're inadequate or they're too needy

the idea that a sufficiently intense love should cause you to cease to be attracted to anyone else

the idea that commitment is synonymous with exclusivity
the idea that marriage and children are the only valid teleological justifications for being committed to a relationship

the idea that your insecurities are always your partner’s responsibility to tip-toe around and never your responsibility to work on

the idea that your value to a partner is directly proportional to the amount of time and energy they spend on you, and it is in zero-sum competition with everything else they value in life

the idea that being of value to a partner should always make up a large chunk of how you value yourself

RolloTreadway ,
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@RickiTarr To this ND person trying to get by in NT society, inculcating these relationship conventions on the young mind is like teaching a new driver that they should avoid looking at road signs. It's taking away the ability to avoid danger.

sheepnik , to random
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One thing I particularly like about the filter system here is that you can choose to have things show in your feed with a content warning, which you can read as you choose, or to not appear at all. I've just chosen to put one of my filters on the second option for a while. That'll keep things clearer for a while.

RolloTreadway ,
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@sheepnik I only ever use the second option. If I put the first on, I'll just click them anyway, can't stop myself.

DJDarren , to random
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Morning champions!

Those of you who join in with will be delighted to know that this monday’s theme is…

Bastille Day

Yep, the French will be celebrating their history of violent revolution tomorrow, which gives us a great opportunity to celebrate all things French. Throw your suggestions at me and we’ll build a great show!

RolloTreadway ,
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@DJDarren This is from one of my favourite French albums of last year, and I love it. And as well as being a banging tune, it's also about France's official national pastime, smoking.

Zaho de Sagazan - Aspiration
https://youtu.be/ePyfiVAqdDQ

Schnuckster , to random
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About to watch Donnie Darko for the second time, last time was when it first came to DVD. N has never seen it. Wonder if it will make any more sense. Director's cut this time, if that makes a difference. 📀📽🎬

RolloTreadway ,
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@Schnuckster If I remember rightly, and it's been a while, the director's cut was absolutely dire and largely served to make me respect the fine work of editors.

RolloTreadway , to random
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Does anyone know: when you put in a filter here as Whole Word, is it case sensitive?

RolloTreadway OP ,
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@samantha Thanks.

RolloTreadway OP ,
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@sheepnik Thanks.

JohnBloor , to random
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Is Katy Perry the same as Jordan? I know nothing about celebrities.

RolloTreadway ,
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@JohnBloor Jordan is Katie Price. Katy Perry is a big American pop star.

purplepadma , to random
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Morning folks! Just had a really lovely buffet breakfast and now packing up to head for Evora in central Portugal. I didn’t sleep well so suspect I’ll be dozing in the car again. If it’s not sunny where you are, I send you some Spanish sunshine ☀️

RolloTreadway ,
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@purplepadma It is not at all sunny here. Hope you have a lovely day.

sheepnik , to random
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Suppose I ought to think about starting work.

....

Ok, I've thought about it. I'm going to make some tea instead.

RolloTreadway ,
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@sheepnik This is the correct decision.

theplaguedoc , to random
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It's my birthday....

RolloTreadway ,
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@theplaguedoc Hope you have a good one.

RolloTreadway , to random
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A quick entry into the theme: Come Back From San Francisco by The Magnetic Fields.
https://youtu.be/2dv82ZmkRLc

RolloTreadway , to random
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Morning everyone. Can't pretend that I'm feeling particularly great right now. Hope everyone else is going better.

My earworm this morning is Tonite It Shows by Mercury Rev. https://youtu.be/12_kW1d-VTQ

RolloTreadway OP ,
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@sheepnik Hugs always welcome. And yes, I can certainly recommend sofa working, and hopefully not working too hard.

DJDarren , to random
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The trouble with mute filters on Mastodon is that you get a bit pissy when they don’t exist elsewhere.

this toot brought to you by muting the word “Biden” on here then opening BBC News to an avalanche of stories about whether or not he’s fit to run

RolloTreadway ,
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@DJDarren I think the lesson here is to never leave the safe confines of fedi, not even for a minute, shut out the entire non-fedi universe.

ChrisMayLA6 , to random
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Across the media we are confronted with stories about what Reform will do next, what implication of the vote for the Right are for British politics, etc. etc.....

There are far less stories/analysis of what the well-planned & executed Greens election strategy means;

with good planning & clear focus they quadrupled their MPs, got a sizeable vote for a small(er) party & their vote among the young was disproportionately large.... so why are so few talking about this???

RolloTreadway ,
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@ChrisMayLA6 I really hope this obsession with five MPs fizzles out as soon as the novelty fades. Five MPs, for heaven's sake. Out of 650.

Unfortunately, I read a rumour (just a rumour!) that if Braverman doesn't win the Tory leadership, as seems increasingly likely, then she'll defect to Reform, and the media will get into such a lather then.

RolloTreadway ,
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@ChrisMayLA6 (Although I should add that, if Braverman tried to defect to Reform, I'm far from certain they'd accept her. It would mean Farage sharing a lot of limelight and making room for an ego as big as his own.)

RickiTarr , to random
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Things No One Tells You, But They Should:

All trauma you've repressed through your teens and 20's will come bite your ass in your 30's, you will not escape this reckoning.

What else do you wish someone would have told you?

RolloTreadway ,
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@RickiTarr Oh heavens, so many things. But especially... I don't know how to put this. I expect that many people who, like me, were abused in early adulthood would have been vulnerable and an easy target for predators. And maybe there could've been advice about how not to be?

Our culture is very much one of expecting young adults to make mistakes and learn from them. And that's absolutely fine when the consequences of the mistake are, say, getting fired or having your heart broken or losing money or some kind of painful but temporary injury. We do need to learn from mistakes like that.

But maybe we could try to arm young people against mistakes that will be exploited by others, that will completely destroy their lives? Maybe society shouldn't accept that a certain proportion of its young adults will be irreparably harmed by avoidable things?

TheBreadmonkey , to random
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I am attempting to pickle my own gherkin

RolloTreadway ,
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@TheBreadmonkey Not in front of the children, I hope. Dearie me.

sheepnik , to random
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While I'm in a demanding mood, can someone (or several someones) move my bed down to the living room so I don't have to try and get upstairs. My legs are tired.

RolloTreadway ,
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@sheepnik If only you'd asked before I went to bed. Unfortunately, it's now impossible for me to leave bed for eight or nine hours, so I can't possibly help.

RolloTreadway , to random
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With @neurothing on parental leave - which I hope is going wonderfully! - @Resister has very kindly stepped in to provide a topic of .

I don't have any songs that I associate with my Dad - my memories of him listening to music are entirely of him listening to baroque organ music with his headphones on, and I couldn't tell you which pieces he most liked - so here's five songs related to fathers in some way or other.

Milkweed - My Father's Sheep Is Dead
https://youtu.be/J-09xiRnbNU

The Young'uns - Three Dads Walking
https://youtu.be/2OEx5t748rY

The Beach Boys - Child is Father of the Man
https://youtu.be/reqyRKeLImE

Wall of Voodoo - Me and My Dad
https://youtu.be/lWvPoamMIwQ

Dick Gaughan - The Father's Song
https://youtu.be/VjSmpadhAOU

RolloTreadway , to random
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Was looking for something to listen to that I already enjoy and am very comfortable with. So, unusually, not something new. But it is absolutely brilliant and it's been a while since I've mentioned it, so: listen to this. I love it to bits.

Ak Dan Gwang Chil (ADG7) - Such Is Life
https://adg7.bandcamp.com/album/adg7-2nd-such-is-life

purplepadma , to random
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I survived the night! I wasn’t sick, I didn’t have a panic attacks, and I slept about the same as I sleep at home (not great, disturbed by my cough). Only 3 hours to go until we reach Santander! How is everyone this morning?

RolloTreadway ,
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@purplepadma Good news! Very glad that you were able to get some sleep and have managed okay.

RolloTreadway , to random
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Morning everyone. Very much at the point where the amount of work I have to do is causing sufficient stress that I'm not actually able to do it, which only makes everything worse.

Also makes my visit to Mum in a couple of weeks even more troubling.

Plus I'm annoyed with myself because a big new piece of work that's landed on my desk is one that I should've been expecting and ready for, it's a biannual thing, every July and January, but I lost track of time and forgot it was looming.

Not feeling great about all this tbh. Hope you're all in a better situation.

RolloTreadway OP ,
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@snaptophobic Thank you. Wish I had the same confidence in me.

RolloTreadway OP ,
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@sheepnik Thank you. It's certainly going to be a struggle. I hope your adventure in the wilds of Cardiff goes better.

TheBreadmonkey , to random
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<opening up my trenchcoat and whispering>

Hey, buddy. Want some of these..... opinions?...

RolloTreadway ,
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@JackTheCat @TheBreadmonkey Oh god, I did too, and only just realised on a third read that it doesn't say onions.

I would like some onions, though.

sheepnik , to random
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The big question of the day is: can I be arsed to put my shoes back on so I can go and get some chocolate from the vending machine?

RolloTreadway ,
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@sheepnik It always does, in the end.

MondayMoon , to random
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Happy Wednesday! I hope it’s got all the joy you’re after! :bunhdheart:

Have a reminder to cover the basics of food/water/rest today, but also to do something nice for future you! Maybe take some time today to check on house needs, or if you need extra rest, or just plan a nice future outing! You deserve nice things today and every day! :abunhdhappy:

Today’s tea is likely milk tea, but we’ll see! (It’s still so hot but I can dream!) What are you brewing up today? :blobfoxflooftea:

RolloTreadway ,
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@MondayMoon Hello. Very tired today, so I've been trying to rest as best I can. Hope you're having a good day.

And I've been drinking chun mee today.

Zumbador , to ActuallyAutistic group
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@actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd @actuallyadhd

I need to improve my "reminders" setup.

What do you use to remind you to do repeating tasks? The standard reminder function on your phone, or do you use apps? Or analogue methods that don't require tech?

RolloTreadway ,
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@Zumbador @actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd @actuallyadhd Phone for me. I seriously worry about losing my phone and my life falling to pieces. It absolutely keeps me going.

I'd like to use something else but nothing I've tried works, because I need something that will actually yell at me and which I don't have to manually check.

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