No, there have been several cases in America where cadaver dogs have been used in rural areas to find dead bodies. They use them all the time to solve cold cases, and to locate bodies when a suspect finally confesses and says where the victim is buried.
I don’t care. Have you ever been in need of a blood transfusion and been told by a nurse that they don’t have one available in your blood type? I have. I almost died in 2012 from blood loss. I am lucky to be alive today. If some other O- donor would have just been there to help, or had donated a week or so before that day, it would have been an easier recovery. I donate because I know someone in a hospital needs my blood donation to survive. A human life is worth more than the few dollars the blood bank actually makes from my donation. Most of the money from the blood transfusion cost goes towards the medical procedure, the actual process of transporting it, and testing the blood to make sure it’s safe. The blood bank needs to keep operating. It’s not owned by some billionaire. I hope you never need a blood transfusion. It will make you change your priorities if you do.
It's still exploitation. They're making profit off your generosity. Loads of it. Personally I sell my blood. Still get to help the people in need, but at least it's a more honest transaction.
Often times we get stuck in the what-if and it comes with a lot of anxiety and worry about trying to find the "right" thing to do or say. But what helps me is asking myself the question, "wouldn't you rather know?"
I've been denied by many beautiful women and I've been accepted by others I never thought I'd have a chance with. The only ones that I regret are the ones I never had the courage to ask. Life's short my friend, don't burden yourself with worry and wonder. Give it a try, just ask her honestly and be ok with whatever the answer is.
If she just wants to help with the house? Great, you have a better chance of becoming friends now that you're not worried about what she thinks of you. If she's unsure or says yes, then just let things develop as they will. Worst case scenario, she doesn't talk to you anymore...sad yes, but at least you can look for someone who wants you back!
Exactly. I do not typically talk to my contractors on the phone for hours. I think it's fair to assume that this opens the door to at least try giving it a shot without breaking etiquette.
I don't know how much time that job takes, but if you ask her out after she completed it, she can just say no without having to see you again and without feeling like she has to say yes because of the ongoing job
I’m coming at you with the confidence of a complete internet stranger that is not in your situation, not in your shoes, and not in the same mindset as you.
I say that because I think I could do this right now at this time in my life, with how I currently feel, but I know absolutely, that I would not have had this level of confidence at certain points in my life - heck, even at many points in my life.
But here’s my completely ungrounded in your reality suggestion:
Figure out if you are going to go with another quote. If you are, then commit to yourself not to change your mind on that unless she offers a requote, but well… I’ll explain further down.
Call her up, and give her the rundown. For me, that would look like this - I’d make sure she had at least a few minutes to talk, and I’d say something like “I have a couple issues I’m currently trying to work through regarding this project, and I need your help.” I’d say that her quote came in a bit higher than others, and maybe even make a point to say that you know her work is worth it, but you don’t have the budget for it. If she offers to change her quote, I’d stop her, and say something like “I’m not opposed to that, but before we talk about that, I want to talk about my other issue.”
Next, I’d steer the conversation to the next thing you wanted to talk about. I’d tell her that my other problem is that I really have enjoyed working with her and I’d like to ask her on a date if she was interested, but I’m worried that asking her out might be problematic - I wouldn’t want her to feel beholden since you have a working relationship. I would be very, very clear - that no matter her response, you’ve already left her glowing online reviews, will continue to recommend her to your friends, and if she still wants to offer a revised quote, you won’t show it favoritism if she does go on a date with you.
It’s important that you impress on her that she doesn’t have to go on a date with you to get work. (You might want to say that.) You don’t want a power imbalance there. Heck, I’d even tell her it’s totally fine if she wants to end your personal/professional relationship as a result.
Alright. It’s done. It’s been confessed and proposed and stated. Thank you for the advice. I don’t think I would have thought to consider the things you pointed out. Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m going to go freak out a little while I wait for her to either respond or ghost me. 😊
She responded by prefacing her response with how she is usually indecisive, but then follows it up by saying in this case it was easy and that she would like to go out sometime 😃. So now I need to figure out where to take her and when to plan the date.
Thanks again everyone for the support! You all rock!
Depending on the area you might want to have triple pane windows instead, otherwise there is too much heat lost during winter.
Double or triple pane windows don't protect from the sun's heat thought, so you would need additional shielding/dimming from that, which in turn will make it darker in your building. Hence I guess it'll only work for buildings with lots of window space compared to the floor space, i.e., single family homes or other small buildings.
Not to mention cloudy days, or short days in winter, so the building would have to be fully wired for lights anyway. And dimmable for when they only need to supplement a cloudy day.
Natural light is one of those things that seem super obvious, until you spend pretty much any time actually thinking about it.
It's not a thing because it doesn't make sense to be a thing, not because no one thought of it.
My guess would be costs. Skylights need to be framed and installed in a way that prevents leaks for as long as possible. They need to be well insulated, so that light is maximized and heat transfer is minimized. More windows also means higher maintenance and replacement costs.
I love the idea of skylights! I have never owned a home with any though. Probably just like with everything else in a house: people seem to like it until it leaks.
Sunlight is proportional to the square of a building’s radius, but the light demand is proportional to the cube. This is assuming a relatively simple building design, of course, but that’s the basic answer. Just a matter of how the dimensionality scales as the building gets bigger.
For starters there’s more than one floor in my house, so the trade offs of punching holes in my roof are only beneficial to a small portion of the house.
The next is the overall costs. Windows that are sealed properly and insulate as well as a solid roof are fucking expensive as hell. This is a luxury feature when building a home and most of us are not making luxury money.
My last thought is control over the lighting. Again, its more costly to install motorized shading (because otherwise you need a long awkward pole or some other weird system) for when you don’t want a beam of light blinding you for various reasons. Glare on a tv is an obvious example. Maintenance on these systems is a pain in the ass compared to changing a light bulb, and these days you can just get LED lighting that lasts for years and never requires a bulb change for relatively cheap.
Actually another thought related to the shade controls is privacy. Depending on how tall neighboring buildings are you may not want the neighbors just peering in, so again you need shade controls. It’s situational, and not everyone is in a situation where this wouldn’t be a problem.
Edit: Another thought is cleaning. I’m not climbing up on the roof to clean those and it’ll look like shit after awhile if I don’t. If there’s surrounding trees dropping leaves this will be a more frequent issue
I did the same thing about 10 years ago when I was diagnosed with Menieres disease. The first few weeks of caffeine withdrawal were rough, but I feel so much better now.
Hell yeah! Haven't had any caffeine in 12 years. I have a pic somewhere of my dr pepper/monster/chic fila cup collection from a single semester of college (I'll try in a few hours and see if I can find the picsfound it lol all of those drawers were full btw & pic number two). Shit was kinda wild.
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