They are just excited for you that you are traveling around and hanging out with people, and they love you so much that imagining you happy with this pretty girl as your girlfriend is overpowering
It is ok
I get why it bothers you, but out of all the sins a person’s parent can commit this one is pretty fuckin minor. Life is not forever, nor parents. I would let it go.
My parents were all up in my business about my work, what I was doing, who I was seeing, and I felt smothered. Now I can see they just missed me and wanted to know about my life. Since we weren't sitting around the table taking about our day the only way they could catch up was calling me. I didn't realize how much their lives changed as I and my siblings moved out. All I could see was my future ahead, moving forward, out of the nest. Their entire lives and routines were being upended after 20 years.
They're in their 80s now. Dad's on the decline, I don't think we'll have him much longer. I hope OP can get some balance and perspective. Life is too short to hold into resentment
You're right, I know it's harmless at the end of the day. The biggest issue it creates is that it makes me want to not talk about my friends with them, but I can get over it. Who cares if they think I'm getting a lot more action than I actually am anyway
I'm sick of hearing that Biden is the only person who has beat Trump as an equivalence to the only person who can. Out of 2 people who tried? Trump is a super weak candidate. Weaker than he was in 2016 and 2020. Anyone could beat him. But, here we are.
Sounds dumb but I watch my backyard ecosystem a lot. Like a LOT. I smoke on the back porch so like I say. A lot. I’ve carefully cultivated this nice little nature preserve and have watched the birds raise families. All families that return year after year and grow their own families. I recognize them and know their patterns and that’s helped me to feed them and their young at the times needed and in a way that minimizes their vulnerabilities. Same with squirrels, possums, etc.
It hurts when you see one of your babies fall prey to something bad. Hawk, neighborhood cats, nature, and worse, humans.
But I began to recognize that’s the price I have to pay to be involved. Realistically I shouldn’t be involved and in an ideal world humans would leave all animals be, but I live in suburbia and animals are sometimes dependent on us here.
But being involved is a precious thing and sometimes it just hurts. Remember that you’re likely right about the kitty falling prey to another animal. But don’t fault that animal as they are simply doing what they know. Just be ultimately grateful that nature recognized you as a safe person/safe place and that’s a pretty awesome thing. Let that thought lift you up when the dark underbelly of nature shows itself.
This is such a bad take. Take them to a shelter so they at least have a chance at adoption. If that's not an option available in your area, find out if there's a TNR program that can fix the adults so they don't do more ecological damage by continuing to reproduce.
They're feral, not wild. Wild cats (servals e.g.) live in wild areas of places like sub-Saharan Africa. You're referring to feral domesticated cats. They're out there because they've escaped or been released and continued to breed or were raised semi-feral like barn cats. We as a society are responsible for them.
Eh, if you're going to take on a stray cat, work on making them an indoor cat. If you're not ready for that challenge, don't try to take on a stray cat.
I agree though that the downstream effects of feeding strays makes it a harmful thing to do, even if it is directly helpful to the cat. But you can still help.
Nature is a cold hearted bitch. Worse than any person you have ever encountered.
Starvation, hunger, exhaustion, untreated injuries, fear, pain, and death.
Humanity is what we bring to the table. This whole fiction you and I get to inhabit where everything’s warm, everything’s clean, the store is full of food, someone comes to help you and take care of you if you’re sick or injured, humans made all that shit up, piece by piece.
Keep it going. Wild place is wild place. Human place is human place, and it’s pretty fuckin far from perfect so far. It’s good enough now that if you’re from the lucky countries you can see the heartless inhumanity in the natural world by way of contrast. But it’s for damn sure not done yet.
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