it depends on the game imo. in the end so what it takes to enjoy it it's your free time. but it's also easy to remove the enjoyment entirely, and at some point you are better off just modding what you want in.
Nethacks a good example of that. permadeath is pretty key to the way the game was designed. restoring a backup save file does help when youre starting out but then why not just enable explorer mode and keep going?
Or if you're reloading saves in bg3 every time the dice rolls are bad.. why not just get a mod to do infinite rerolls or always roll perfectly?
I play games with cheats so that I don't have to struggle getting materials, or other annoying things that games do to pad out time. I play games within a small time frame, therefore, I do not want to spend the little bit of time I do have doing mind-numbingly boring shit, and get back to having actual fun. :)
YES! I was going to say WeMod, but chose cheats instead, because some games I play require Cheat Engine since WeMod doesn't have the cheats I'm looking for. Sometimes, Cheat Engine also has more options, and can always be used to make your own.
But annoyingly, I'd walk into a room of enemies that I didn't know were there and just get absolutely shredded, where the whole party would die.
Or I'd fail a check 4 times and feel like an entire quest line got closed off or that I couldn't finish a quest because the fight was too difficult. Kind of annoying.
Unless you're in a very, very very small community, it seems unlikely that an adult would meet a child, somehow learn that the child was part of another adult's life, and then tell that child to insult that other adult. It's much more likely that the insult they're using is more common than you realize and something children just throw around. Probably has nothing to do with your sister. Do you want to share what the word is?
This is the same older sister that has sicced guy on me that are ten years older than me, or more, in an attempt to make me date them. But in actuality, it was her trying to set me up for a cruel joke and bullying. It’s always men that are around her age and know her. One of them put feces on his chapstick, covered his lips in it, and then demanded to kiss me. This is the kind of stuff she does/arranges to bully me.
And yes, we live in a very small town. Her son plays baseball in a league with these families, so she sits around and talks to all their moms. The sisters of the sons attend the baseball games and practices, so they probably hear her.
It wouldn’t make sense here. It’s a name that my distant cousins invented in the 90’s. Later, my “sister” began using it as an insult.
Basically, some teenage boys created a name of a fictitious person in order to call women fat. They were actually using the name to describe a bloated body of a dead relative that had been discovered after it was too late to embalm it. They basically abused the corpse, and then tried to say it wasn’t one of their relatives they had abused. They gave the body a “nickname”, and then began using that nickname, as an insult towards women who were still alive.
If I told you the name, it wouldn’t make sense to you because you weren’t there in the ‘90’s to have to put up with them, or that situation.
Have you considered local volunteer work? You could go give blood. You could visit a retirement home and bring some board games for the residents to play. Just some ideas. I don’t think you’re self centered. You reflect on how you can be less self centered, and most self centered people don’t do that.
That's going to be a long path. Start with small steps to train yourself. Set weekly goals/reminders of what change you want to see.
Start by forcing you to actively listen and engage in the conversation. Train yourself to remember what the other person said. If you don't feel like helping, ask yourself why (after the conversation is over) and actively decide that your reason is valid and you indeed don't want to/can't help. If the reason is not valid, offer to help. Also, start conversations with other people as small talk. That way, not all conversations are about what people need from you.
Train yourself to stop seeing conversations as something where you need to solve people's problems. If they are not actively asking your help, maybe they don't need it. Maybe they're just offloading some frustration or see you as a friend with whom they can share personal stuff.
Not all talked about problems require a direct solution from yourside. Sometimes people just want somebody who symphatizes with them and feels with them. And that's enough and the only thing they want from you.
Unfortunately, being a human means all interactions are selfcentered from the startingparty point of view. So view them as part of life.
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