Yes, the Milkybars are on me. I'm just entertaining myself. Normally I'd go for a run but I think I'm a bit depressed, I don't seem to be able to snap out of it.
Certainly on the bigger instances. If you go off the beaten track a little bit you tend to fund the old small subreddit experience. You know all the ones that are about cats in trees or wood working.
Those niche subs aren't worthwhile here yet. They're just filled with losers who insist they're 100% right about everything all the time or they're losers with nothing better to do than sit online and troll.
You laugh, but look up no touching policies in schools. Some of them prohibit students from hugging each other. We're going to end up with a bunch of traumatized adults who received no human contact as children.
On that, I'm one of those oh so delightful high functioning spectrum types who can't fucking stand anybody touching me. In spite of this, I also recognize the base human need for touch for people who aren't me. These policies are going to hurt people.
I'm not a sociologist, and probably there is someone who knows what they're talking about who has done actual research and maybe written an actual paper I just haven't seen. But I have this theory that humans need some level of discomfort.
In part, I think the brain gets stronger when challenged. It needs practical challenges, not just artificial challenges. And in part, I think that suffering is relative. Those people who freak out about getting the wrong color iPhone? It's literally the worst thing that's ever happened to them, and they have no coping skills.
All that to say... We're definitely fucking ourselves up by trying to make things TOO safe and comfortable.
Personally, I think everyone should go through at least one crisis when they are adolescents so they know how to handle things, or at least what traits they need to get under control. If you never experience something going wrong, when you can still bounce back, you will never survive "rolling snake eyes" and getting hit by a bad event.
Then again, some training on coping skills and then created scenarios where people must then use said coping skills (e.g. get left in the wild for 2 days with some food, a tent and the ability to chicken out on the condition they retake the course) would probably work as well.
This is a thing in some scouting programs, and I hear it's a pretty common thing in the Netherlands to drop teens in the woods and let them figure their way back.
Depends on where you're eating honestly. Some places call long flat fries home fries and other places call just like cubed fried potatoes home fries. Basically any fried potatoe shape that's not shoestring French fries might be called "home fries".
This is also how you handle psych patients ...and psychiatric workers ...and Healthcare administrators. I started getting much better work reviews when I started treating my boss how I treat my patients. It turns out just fundamentally expecting pretty much everyone to behave wildly irrationally with no warning is shockingly accurate.
Arousal cycles (The mental health kind, not the sex kind) are absolutely useful info to use, not just on low functioning individuals, but on everyone to a degree (ONCE AGAIN, NOT THE SEX KIND)
That reminds me. I ordered Uber eats and the driver, a black girl, drives up and it's hysterical. She's telling me how her last delivery was a racist PoS, threatened cops on her, and she's so sorry about my order but angry about the situation. I'm just standing there hungry for my food.
We sat on the porch and I let her calm down, then I dont know why, but I asked if she wanted a hug. She was taken back but she agreed, and it was a super weird hug. But she felt better I think. I dunno.
What, like she has the cops called on her every week or something? I'd be pretty stressed about that, especially if it meant my next delivery might not tip me.
The best way I've found to deal with deep dark rage without collapsing into a broken ghost is to focus on gratitude. Thinking on your blessings can be the antidote to the poison of anger.
Sometimes it’s just as simple as changing your perspective a little.
My uncle has pretty bad anger issues. Almost every workday he’d have to drive downtown, usually when the traffic was the worst (and he hated downtown driving to begin with), and he’d get super stressed and rage about it. He’d try to make it so he didn’t have to go downtown, but almost without fail something would come up and he’d be stuck doing it.
He told me he realized it wasn’t healthy, so he tried fixing it by changing it from thinking of it as ‘goddamnit I have to drive downtown again after I tried so hard not to!’ to ‘oh well, have to do my daily downtown trip’. And then when he occasionally didn’t have to go downtown, it became sort of an extra bonus treat.
He was amazed at how much anger he lost, just with a small change in thinking.
I know fixing that is quite complex but my friend started kick boxing and it really helped her. Sometimes it helps to simply let the negative energy out so it doesn’t eat you alive and then you can see more solutions with a clear head
WAAAAY better than the fantasies I see posted of revenge for someone’s behavior. It’s possible to be the bigger person and still not tolerate bad behavior.
