Lol. I have never done crack. This moniker stems from when I was in a Rocket Arena clan many ages ago, where the clan name was [CRACK] and I was known as Happy for my giggles as I rail shot people from across the map.
I am, but not in its entirety. There are still a lot of things I would like to achieve and a couple of other things in my environment that I dislike quite a bit, but overall I feel satisfied with myself and who I am today; something that a few years ago I couldn't claim even if it cost me my life.
It's not a waste of time, you live once, you die forever, once dead, you will have all the time you have lost in life. Anyway, even if this life sucks... it's the only thing we have to feel, often we fall on depressions but normally people that is able to be online posting here, they are often better than 90% of the people on the world, you probably have food and everything you need, and you can do much more or much less as you please. Bad feelings/depression often blind ourselves, so be happy and motivated even if you are depressed, those bad and good feelings are just like leaves moving by wind, they come and go as they please. Often our depression and lack of happiness is caused by our gens and survival instinct.
Nope, just saying other people has less, and they can be as happy as anyone. What I want to say is that most of the depressions is mental, happiness is proven than it's 45% genetics or like that, I don't remember now, but the difference between someone happy and someone who gets depressed often are mostly the genetics.
So what I am saying is, there are people that has less than you, and they have fun and are happy.
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Telling me I’m not allowed to feel sad etc because others have it worse?
Never said that, but go angry mode. Go. I said we need to deal with our sadness.
Living Well, happily and embodying my values and dreams. Thats quite a lot of things at the same time.
I struggle to define living well. I‘m well off compared to less privileged people and the opposite for more privileged people. I‘d say I‘m doing well considering the cards I was given in life.
I‘d say I‘m reasonably happy for the situation I find myself in. I would like to be happier but I allow myself to be unhappy about things that re not okay with my surroundings and the world.
Embodying my values couldn’t be more true. I basically live and die for my values. I help other people, fight for them if need be, I educate folks, actively make the world a better place. I‘m honest where it does good.
My dreams have changed a lot from when I was younger. I used to think I need to be rich and famous because the TV said I must. I became reasonably wealthy and somewhat powerful. Then I found out that it doesnt do you any good. So I pursued love instead. Now I‘m not as wealthy and not as powerful but I am a lot happier and influence more people to be happier and healthier themselves.
Yeah, for the most part. I'm working towards my dreams and they feel within reach even though I know the path there is both long and arduous. It will require a lot of me, but that is more due to what my dreams are than any circumstances around me.
How it happened is of course a hard question to answer. In some ways, perhaps many ways, dumb luck, I met my wife in an unlikely place and she has built me up brick by brick over many years by now. Without her it's hard to imagine I'd, we'd, be in such a good place all around.
But that isn't really helpful, focusing on the parts I had no and have no control over. If we instead look only on my actions I think there are a few but more importantly a few key insights that helped me:
Actions:
Fake it till you make it. Confidence is all important in our society, if you don't have it naturally then you need to fake it. Over time it becomes second nature.
Take care of yourself, first. Like they say in the preflight security rundown, put on your own mask first before you attempt to help others.
Take responsibility for your own well being. Related to the one above but this is more on the emotional level, while external factors will of course impact your well being you don't have direct control over them. You can't expect anyone else you make you feel good/well so you need to shoulder that burden.
Insights:
You rely on society and it relies on you: while work sucks and is often times completely meaningless and seemingly detrimental to the world from a long term macro perspective it's still the case that your dream life involves amenities and comforts that require people to work. And you can't expect that of others unless you yourself put in the same effort.
You aren't in control and you never truly will be: while this might be a hard pill to swallow you need to make peace with the fact that you could get cancer the day you reach your ultimate goal and that's just part of this reality. You can only impact your actions and improve your chances, you can't guarantee shit. Celebrate your victories no matter the source of them and learn from your own mistakes but don't let external circumstances crush you.
Life just isn't far: relates to the above. Some people smoke and drink and do copious amounts of drugs are still wildly successful and rich and live to 100. Some work their asses off, are the nicest people ever, live clean and healthy and then die in cancer in their 30s with two young children left behind. Dwelling on this solves nothing. It's just a part of our reality and isn't really meaningfully changed or impacted by politics.
Those are my two cents
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Hmm, I skipped something that might be super obvious but I shouldn't assume:
Action:
Smile and the world smiles at you: not in the sense that you're guaranteed or owed a smile but rather that being kind and putting out good vibes makes life smoother and happier for us all. This is not to say that we should accept bad things of course, but make sure to reduce the collateral damage of your negative emotions and feelings, think surgical strike on a specific, deserving, target and not carpet bombing everything and everyone.
You need friends, or at the very least someone to talk to: Ties in to the above in that if you don't dump your negative emotions on the world then we're do you dump it? Because carrying that shit around or just eating the bad emotions yourself is not a viable approach. No, you need to have people to vent to/with. Be that your partner, friends, family or a professional. This goes for all bullshit like getting sick and missing an event you've looked forward to and had tickets to for months. Or being passed up for a promotion in favor of Kenny who by all metrics does a worse job than you. You need to vent that shit out because being in a shitty mood and making everyone else uncomfortable is not going to make your life any better or happier.
Ever since I've accepted that dystopia is already here, and there's nothing to avoid it, but we can do everything in our power to create something better. I'm not as afraid, I'm not feeling as powerless as I used to. I've learned to seek good council, that helps. Got over wanting to feel or appear important and now rather want to do important work.
How? Got divorced from someone who could not handle their anxiety well, also my child grew up to spend more time with their friends, and so all I was used to disappeared. I had time and opportunity (or was forced) to re-evaluate my life choices - because the unhealthy imbalance in my former relationship mirrored the unsettling imbalance of the world in crisis in some eerie way. It was as if I was shown the workings of abuse and then forced to apply my learning onto the world and my position in it. I went through months of doubt and confusion. With support of my wonderful bf who I met on the way I managed to come out a better and more happy person on the other side, it was a very wild ride.
This or similar seems to have happened to a lot of people recently.
Yep. I didn't feel this way for a long time, then realised it was because I was married to the wrong woman. She was heavily influencing the sort of man I was outwardly portraying, and it always felt like I was wearing a badly-made suit.
After the end of that marriage, I met my soul mate, and now have two wonderful stepkids and an incredible daughter. We've now been together for a little over 11 years, and I'm still amazed at how lucky I am. My family gives me purpose and meaning, every day.
Absolutely not, no. How should this be possible with all the external responsibilities that need to be fulfilled in order to survive in a modern-day society?
How it happened? Mostly by chance. I'm good at what I do and work in the medical industry for a small company that actually strives to help people rather than maximize revenue, and compensates employees very fairly, allowing me to live well and in accordance with my personal values. Nothing is ever 100%, but I'm mostly satisfied really. Of course there are some days where I dream of running a coffee shop in Bali, but that's just one of those days.
As for the second part, I've got a great partner, great friends, and sufficient free time to do what I enjoy. I'm just living in a city I'm not particularly fond of, so that leaves room for improvement.
My values and dreams have changed a lot since I was a kid. I like the ones I have now, they're more humane and compassionate.
I think I have an ok life, nothing amazing but I have a stable job, good marketable skills, a loving girlfriend and two cats. I'm not exactly where I want to be but I'm still working on it.
I had a lot of self realisations in the past few years and it made me understand who I was and why I am the way I am. So that's also great I think.
My first dream was to leave the region I grew up in, which I did. The second was to leave my native country which I did too, but then I had to come back. So it felt a bit like a setback. That's still one of my goals.
As for dreams that never happened (or didn't happen yet) one was to live in Singapore for a while and then New Zealand.
My first dream was to leave the region I grew up in, which I did. The second was to leave my native country
I get that, I had that exact order of things I wanted to accomplish myself. It was rough, but I feel I've made it happen.
but then I had to come back. So it felt a bit like a setback. That’s still one of my goals.
But you went out, that's an accomplishment. And if you could do it once, you can do it again. If it is harder for some reason now, you've had practice, you'll do it. I believe in you.