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I’m just Matt

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Hot date idea... :ablobcatangel: @alice

Close-up of salad and Pillow-Alice ❤️🩷
Tucking my darling into bed. Say goodnight everyone... (oh wait, you can't) 🤷‍♀️

slegna ,
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@catsalad @alice this is the best thing I have ever had “nothing” to do with :blobcatangel:

alice , to random
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    slegna ,
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    @alice This is your future @catsalad

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    slegna ,
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    @alice @ellie @catsalad is that a fucking-pillow!?

    18+ slegna ,
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    @alice @ellie @catsalad alternatively, the perfect size to attach to a robot vacuum

    (The NSFW tag was a roller coaster)

    18+ slegna ,
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    @alice @ellie @catsalad I love this journey for all of us

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    slegna ,
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    @alice one, three, and five socks :blobcattableflip:

    jerry , to random
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    Surely there’s a way to make mid 6 figures by playing with puppies and kittens???

    slegna ,
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    @jerry I think that’s what they do on OnlyFans

    alice , to random
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    Hey y'all! :neocat_cool:

    To kick off this year's :_gaysparkle: Pride Month :_gaysparkle: I was asked to write an article for a LGBTQIA+ site. So I decided to turn my queer, autistic, goldfish brain towards a trans/enby topic that I'm trying to understand better: The journey of—and impact on—friends and family of a transgender person undergoing transition.

    I want to hear from anyone who has been a friend, family member, or partner of someone who is transitioning/has transitioned.

    Specifically, the following:

    1. Did it have an emotional impact on you? What was it?

    2. Do you feel that you underwent a period of mourning for the "person you knew"?

    3. What did your reaction look like and, knowing what you do now, would you change anything about it?

    If you are trans, first off you're lovely :heart_trans:, secondly I also want to hear from you about your perspective on if/how it changed your relationships. Was it taken positively by those around you? Was it not? How did others' reactions impact you?

    I want to hear the good and the bad. I want to know what went well and what people struggled with.

    If you feel comfortable responding in the replies, please do, as I'd like your answers to be visible for anyone else who goes on this journey.

    If you don't feel comfortable sharing publicly, then please DM me, email me, or reach out on Matrix (contact info in profile)

    And this should go without saying, but be kind to each other in the replies—even if you disagree. I'd hate to ban anyone for being an asshat.

    Thank you all so much in advance, it means a lot to me, and I'm sure it will mean a lot to plenty of other people too.

    slegna ,
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    @alice I’d like to preemptively apologize for any offense I might cause seemingly misgendering or deadnaming, it’s kind of relevant to the story so I’ll use pronouns as they preferred at the time. I’m going to swap out names since I don’t have permission to share.

    Once upon a time I used to be a co-lead of rather large, openly LGBTQIA+ guild in an MMO. I had a close group of friends I played with and we often hung out on Discord together. Two of the other co-leads were married IRL, Harry and Samantha. Samantha often was quiet in voice with strangers, and after a life of suffering the all-to-common harassment just for presenting feminine on the internet she requested we always refer to her as Sam publicly, and to not let people outside of our circle know she was female.

    After a few years of this, Sam in public, Samantha in private, one day they pulled me into a chat with the both of them to tell me Sam had realized over time that presenting masculine just felt far more natural for them. It felt right. Sam had just come out to his partner Harry, who was cishet, as a trans man the previous night.

    My initial reaction was one of worry. They both always loved and respected each other so much and I was worried for them that this could be the end of their relationship and I really just wanted them both to be okay and happy. To my delight, Harry had embraced Sam, and said they were still the person they had always loved all this time. After the initial worry passed I was proud and happy for my friend, and a little scared. They weren’t the first person close to me to ever come out as LGBTQIA+, but I had seen how damaging that can be for people. I wanted to show my love and support, and I was afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing.

    So we talked about it. Sam told me the same thing they told Harry. To me, they would always be both Samantha and Sam. They didn’t care what we called them in private, we had known each other so many years that way. Out of habit I kept that up for a little bit, for years I had already said Samantha in private, Sam in public, but eventually it just seemed right to say Sam all the time.

    I spoke to Harry after to see how they were doing. They were definitely confused on what that meant for themselves. They loved Sam and planned to stay together but didn’t know what the long term impact on their relationship would be.

    We’ve drifted apart due to normal life events, but writing this has made me want to check in on them. I don’t know if they’re still together. But regardless I hope they’re both still happy and living life as their authentic selves. I’ll fight anyone who tries to deny them that.

    I’m happy to discuss further if it feels like I left anything out!

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    slegna ,
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    @alice @mingistech I do every time I log into my AWS account. (Okay this was extra nerdy)

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    18+ slegna ,
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    @alice I really do look forward to better days for you, my new internet friend 🫂

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    slegna ,
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    @alice @Bwee
    …Yet 😏

    slegna , to random
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    Arrest me, but make it sexy

    slegna OP ,
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    @alice

    slegna OP ,
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    @alice one day I’m sitting around shitposting on Mastadon

    The next I’m calling up all of my old Brony friends for costume tips

    alice , (edited ) to random
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    I threw all my nsfw OC stuff in a gallery so it's more convenient for y'all 😉

    One catch—if you click the link, then you're socially obligated to reply here with the most adorable picture you can find :blobcatpuffyblush:

    To ensure plausible deniability for others, please post cute pics even if you didn't click the link :neocat_boop_happy:

    Wow :sparkles_trans: so much plausible deniability!

    Update 2024-06-29 added:

    • polaroid
    • horsepower

    https://drive.proton.me/urls/5T95R4XMK4#SocOvsNTlNb1

    Tips are super-cool :floofHeart:
    https://buymeacoffee.com/alice.watson

    18+ slegna ,
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    @alice the world may never know…

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    slegna ,
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    @alice I mean you’ve played the best ones, except missing out on IX and XII
    The VII Remake and Rebirth are amazing if you ever want to re-live that journey.

    How much is too many hours in XIV? 😅
    I haven’t played since the pandemic began and I still think I had 200-300 days playtime… I almost want to install just to see.

    https://na.finalfantasyxiv.com/lodestone/character/1736319/

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