ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling , 1 day ago

I believe that the consensus on this is that the originator of this post has taken up smoking. Ash is sticky.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling , 1 day ago

The rituals started in the 1950s. At that time, in order to go on a date with someone, your parents had to chaperone you. It was the wisdom at the time. Prom and homecoming were the only exceptions, so it became a really big thing. Then those people grew up, impressed upon the next generation how homecoming and prom were the best times in high school, started making nostalgia movies about homecoming and prom. That created pressure to live up to this, girls started getting overly fancy dresses, guys started doing elaborate prom-posals, the wedding dress industry jumped in to fill the gap, and now it's a whole capitalism-fest like Christmas and Valentine's Day

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling , 1 day ago (edited 22 hours ago)

The main thing is that prom didn't start to become big until the 1950s. This was a high water mark for conservatism in the U.S., and in order to go on any date at least one parent, usually the girl's dad, had to be present I have been corrected that this is reductive. Chaperoning was still commonish in this time period, depending on your area, but the 50s dating scene was beginning to look somewhat similar to what we have today with a guy picking up a girl in his car to go somewhere. Dancing would have been an uncommon activity because of how "adult" it was seen to be, so for horny teens Homecoming and Prom were a big deal. The biggest thing you notice looking at the dances of this time period is that the dresses are relatively simple, because it really wasn't that big of a deal back then. It was literally just a school dance, organized and overseen by the teachers and school staff.

Then, those kids grew up, had kids of their own, started making movies, and on doing so impressed on the following generation that homecoming and prom were the most fun nights in all of high school. This created pressure to make your proms and homecomings be as cool as the ones your parents told you about. This led to a lot more effort being put in. Dresses got way more expensive, tuxes became pretty much mandatory, guys began doing elaborate prom-posals.

This created a big economic opening in the market. Somebody needs to make colorful dresses for the girls and tuxes for the guys. The wedding industry immediately took over this area, and homecoming and prom became rush time for that industry. Somebody needs to play music. Back in the 50s they would hire bands, but by the 70s and 80 we started getting disc jockeys and now the party dj industry is fully enmeshed in high school dances. Then there's the decorations, which became themeing, which feeds into the party industry.

Now you have the cultural snowball rolling downhill, building up speed, slowly getting bigger. It is encouraged by a growing industry that advertises to teens how cool their prom will be if they just wear this dress, and then social media happened. Now teens are advertising prom to each other, and feeling they need to be better than that TikTok they saw earlier, so the social pressure to have the coolest prom ever is more ubiquitous that it has ever been.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling , 1 day ago

We really are in our "let them eat cake" era

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling , 22 hours ago

Thanks. Gonna edit my comment since another commenter said he was going to save my comment to copy-paste later if it becomes relevant. I dont want to spread misinformation.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling , 1 day ago

But where is Boo?

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling OP , 6 days ago

Don't remember. We did end up playing Traveller after this, but I know that wasn't what we were talking about. This convo happened back in 2017

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling OP , 6 days ago

I feel like you read a different thing than I thought I wrote. Maybe I could have been clearer. This is about me not wanting to be a player in 5e because the game does not encourage the dm to do stuff. I could have dwelled more on moments where I asked a dm to do something that would help me play my class (spell scrolls in the loot, give me opportunities to interact with other druids in my circle, overland travel, let me make use of my knightly title) and then they just forgot to do that. As a DM, I get it, a lot of these requests were very small things that just get lost in the shuffle, and its not pleasant to tell a player "hey, we wont be doing overland travel, if travel is what makes ranger appeal to you maybe dont play a ranger this game". It would be easier if they game empowered the players to be active in the world and make class-informed choices that the DM can react to.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling OP , 6 days ago

Thanks for the non-adversarial read. And I do agree that class and roleplay are not closely coupled and should not be (although I do think breaking this design philosophy for Paladins would make me want to play one.) Tbh, the most fun I've had at the table was playing a Champion Fighter at adventurer's league. I liked big stronk man, everyone else liked big stronk man, DM was mildly confused by big stronk man. We had fun. I think the difference was that I knew the DM was playing a module, so I didn't ask for much other than some flavor stuff.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling OP , 6 days ago

I think the first 10 people who saw it read me as a grumpy DM griping about players not doing what I want.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling OP , 6 days ago

I do agree that the main problem is with current published adventures and that most campaigns (even homebrew ones) don't usually have places to grind loot. But it's even more frustrating when we do have a dungeon-crawling campaign and there is maybe 3 spell scrolls in the entire campaign because thats what the loot tables rolled.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling OP , 1 day ago

Ooh, what is 13th age? Tbh, the main reason I still like 5e is all the crunchy rules, but for some reason I haven't seen many crunchy dungeon-crawlers. I've also been pitched Mork Borg but the visual design was an immediate turn off for prioritizing COOLNESS over being actually readable.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling OP , 7 days ago

Don't Japanese speakers call Japan something closer to Nippon? So it's even closer than that.

Also, as a LOTR weirdo, the thing that made me laugh was how the mountain range around Orienta is exactly the same as the mountains around Mordor right down to the location of the gates, just rotated slightly. And then right to the left there is Land of Evil-Doom, where the mountains SHOULD HAVE BEEN

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling , 8 days ago

Smart TVs can also scan the input from their hdmi ports and relay that to advertisers.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling , 8 days ago

My current TV is an old one I got from a friend of my dad when he got a bigger one. It's a bit glitchy, but it's not smart, and that's what matters.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling , 7 days ago

True. That said, another comment has claimed that some smart TVs seek out open wifi and use that. Not a big problem in my area though.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling , 8 days ago

I disagree. Back in maybe the 60s the public broadcast networks were not fully beholden to investors, did not have competition from the internet, and didn't have to do 24 hours of news. As a result, they had time to do responsible reporting. The current power structure encourages news media to do whatever it takes to grab your attention and hold it, and the best way to do that is fear.

I have not fully cut out the news from my life. There are some channels on YouTube that do good reporting like Sir Swag and of course Phillip DeFranco.

Another thing to point out is that, assuming you are American, we are in an election year. News companies really ramp up the fear mongering on election years.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling , 8 days ago

I don't think the amount of information is the problem, just the way it is presented to us.

IMHO, my mental health improved significantly after substituting Lemmy for Reddit and Mastodon for facebook/insta/etc. Or maybe I've just gotten better at being unattached to digital life and social pressure

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling , 8 days ago

Thats a reference to a relatively famous linguistics study lol. A bunch of children were given questions such as "This is a man who knows how to gling. He is glinging. He did the same thing yesterday. Yesterday he _____." or presenting them with a wug and then asking what the plural of wug is. The children had very consistent answers to these nonsense grammar questions, showing that grammar rules are mainly learned through experience instead of being memorized for each word.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling , 7 days ago

Glang was common, but so was glinged.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling , 9 days ago

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ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling OP , 10 days ago

And please don't suggest comparing it to LotR, 2/3 of my players think LotR is lame.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling OP , 9 days ago

That was very indicating to hear. But I can't judge my friends for being hollowed-out husks of themselves after a long workday in addition to college. Also, they are good players once the session starts.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling OP , 8 days ago

This is actually the plan, and that video inspired my last DnD campaign. My issue is purely that "sandbox hex crawl" is waaay less interesting than "monster hunting in Conspiracy Clown World".

My current plan is comparing the sandbox game to Frieren Beyond Journeys End.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling OP , 8 days ago

I like to assume that when there's like 1 or 2 dislikes that they came from someone hitting the dislike button by mistake.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling OP , 8 days ago

I actually had a full conversation about this with them today. Turns out I wasn't giving them enough credit lol.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling , 15 days ago

Also, the energy to make that flower is an enormous strain on the plant. Usually, growing that flower causes most or all of the carnivorous leaves to die, and therefore often growing that flower spells the death of the plant.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling , 14 days ago

The specific nutrients it gets from the bugs are nitrogen and phosphorus, which plants normally absorb through their roots. It evolved carnivory to compensate for the poor soil in its native habitat instead of developing its roots like other plants in the area, so it can't pick up the nutritional slack with its atrophied roots.

In addition, every time a leaf closes and tries to digest what it caught, it uses a lot of energy. Flowering always is a big strain on a small plant, no matter what species, so when this strain is introduced the number of carnivorous leaves becomes a difficult risk/reward calculation, and plants are not known for cleverness.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling , 17 days ago

In the last session, my party, who have been having a great time doing quests for my warlock patron, have suddenly realized that maybe they're a bad dude after they killed a child (using the Rogue like a puppet to do so) and then had us brand our children with their symbol. Now they know why I have been so reticent and cryptic for the whole campaign.

Personally I'm just relieved that we finally are all on the same page. It was a bit frustrating seeing the Rogue get sucked into the cult and ignoring all the big red flags on the path to hell.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling , 19 days ago

I have noticed this in the suburbs specifically. Just over the span of my short life I've seen pretty much all the bugs in any area I've lived in disappear, along with the bats that eat them.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling , 19 days ago

Not terribly? My hometown only expanded by one housing development, but most of those houses have not sold. But we had to close our windows at night because the mosquito sprayer trucks would spray so much fog that it impacted my mom's breathing. When I was a kid we had fireflies and bats in the backyard.

As for my current town, I am not surprised at the lack of bugs since it's all corn and nothing but corn; no real rivers, no big ponds, no forests near town, nothing that could shelter bugs outside the houses.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling , 21 days ago

You're the first Karen I've seen on lemmy.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling , 22 days ago

Finally, someone with a brain leaves a comment.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling OP , 23 days ago

Honestly, never heard of this before. Gonna try this for brainstorming. I think this might work well for this specific book idea since I have a bunch of plot beats I would like to hit but not a very strong opinion about what order to hit them in.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling OP , 23 days ago

For me, the world bible is a separate document filled with hyperlinks that is specifically for keeping stuff straight in my head. I've got it pretty much down to a science now, mainly for when I run DnD. It's hard to describe my process for it, because what I try to do is pin one whole train of thought to each page like an entomologist organizing their bug collection. It's most like the wiki method, but in a way that keeps my ADHD brain from getting distracted.

What I struggle with is getting organized before my rough draft. Ive tried free writing, but I tend to lose direction halfway through. I need some sort of organization to stay on task.

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling OP , 7 days ago

I can't tell if this is a shitpost or not

ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling , 23 days ago

Assuming it is a paper notebook, the determining factor is how soaked the pages are. If it is too wet, they may start to meld together making the notebook unusable.

The best thing to do is to actually heat up the book. I've cooked mine in the oven at very low heat, which allows it to dry out fast. My dad does a variant of the rice method for wet books where he fills a bag with rice and then places it in the sun. However, if the notebook is too wet and the pages are sticking together, doing either of these will instead turn your notebook into a solid block of wood. Instead, your best course of action is to try and fan out the pages by individually peeling them apart, then putting the splayed-open notebook somewhere moderately warm where it can slowly dry out under your careful observation.