Mobiuthuselah

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Mobiuthuselah ,

I thought the same thing. This doesn't seem frivolous at all. They're not claiming that they're living in constant fear of the sky falling.

And I'm with ya, I'd totally want to keep the debris.

Mobiuthuselah ,

That's redundant

Mobiuthuselah ,

I thought the same thing at first lol. Like, woah woah woah.

This is a more compassionate approach. The idea of all or nothing puts a lot of pressure on someone when they're trying to change. The flip side is that many people can't moderate and any amount of substance can make them spiral, but start with something that helps them feel the encouragement of others even if they falter from their goals.

The path to sobriety isn't cut and dry, and this approach will help reduce the shame that's often felt along the way. Shame can lead people right back into the same patterns that got them where they are. The dehumanizing stigmas don't go unseen by the people they're applied to. Those stigmas become internalized and self deprecating in a very hurtful way. We're our own worst enemies.

Mobiuthuselah ,

Hey, hey. This comes from a place of fear and that's okay, but recognize it for what it is. Buying guns in fear is what gets people hurt. If you choose to buy a gun for the first time, take proficiency courses. Learn the legal responsibilities that come with it. If you're genuinely concerned, protect yourself in a responsible way. That may or may not be with a firearm. There are many ways to protect yourself. Take martial arts classes for instance.

This may seem like a wild suggestion, but try therapy. It did wonders for my anxiety. Seriously. I don't worry as much. I don't live in fear. I have friends ALL across the political spectrum. We get along fine. We treat each other with love and respect. The news and media drums up fear and excitement for attention. It's what sells ads.

Mobiuthuselah ,

I won't rule out your point. It's good to be pragmatic. But I do know that fear isn't a good leader. I'll continue with my therapy. It does help. I recommend it to everyone.

Mobiuthuselah ,

That's fair. I think we agree that it's important to emphasize proficiency and responsibility. It needs to be explicit. Otherwise, it just plays into media extremism.

Mobiuthuselah ,

That's 2-3x longer than cows raised for meat from what I understand. That may sound inhumane either way depending on your perspective, but doesn't mean that they're treated poorly while alive.

Mobiuthuselah ,

No life is without pain. We may have fundamental differences in how we view inhumanity, and while I'm sure neither of us want anything to suffer, it's the end of life that we may disagree. Death doesn't have to be inhumane or painful though.

Mobiuthuselah ,

"It almost hit my son. He was two rooms over and heard it all,"

I mean, relative to coming from space I guess it almost hit his son.
How does he feel about every car he drives past on a two lane road? "Oh shoot! Almost collided with that one too!"

Mobiuthuselah ,

I see your point, it is fucked and if I were him, I'd probably be just as outraged about the risk to my child.

Respectfully, I don't think that's how I would react emotionally/psychologically. I'm sure I'm not alone here. I'm a lucky guy, but what's the chance of space debris hitting my house twice at different times?

Mobiuthuselah ,

You're right, that comparison is incongruent. And looking at it again, I can understand the dad's reaction. It just struck me as funny that he said "almost hit" and then that the kid was two rooms away.

Are we all fucked?

I'm worried for the world. All I've been thinking about is WW3 and this shit makes me want to vomit. I can't even smoke weed anymore without having a near panic attack. I feel unmotivated. I wake up and immediately just want to go back to bed. I'm not trying to spread fear but the Doomsday clock is 90 seconds till midnight,...

Mobiuthuselah ,

Some places are. I looked around until I found a community care clinic for people who don't have insurance. It's free. The university near me also offers free/low cost therapy. Years ago before we were married, my wife and I found couples counseling from an intern who was gaining experience at no cost to us.

I know everyone doesn't have the same resources, but just wanted to point out that if someone gives up because they assume it's expensive, they may not find the affordable options available to them.

Mobiuthuselah ,

I haven't read through comments yet so I may be redundant.

Hey... So sorry. Pets are a personal relationship. That loss is a grief just like any other. It's hard because others don't have the relationship to that individual that you have.

Grief is something you carry through life. It isn't linear, but it does get easier. Grief will come in waves. You'll be fine and then it hits you out of the blue.

Do we just live and suffer and die?
Well, yeah.
But we also love, and get excited, and feel, learn new things, explore. We fall in love; we experienced heartbreak. We have moments when we notice the light coming through the leaves in the forest, or the sound of water on rocks in a creek, an interaction between a grandparent and young child, the smell of a newborn's head, that first time a cat settles in your lap, coffee when no one else is awake, the first sign of success in a new hobby, I could go on and on. So many things. Observations that have a visceral yet intangible emotional reaction. So so many things.

Let grief make you tender. Let grief remind you that everyone will deal with it in different ways. You can connect to others through vulnerability. Don't let it make you hard or resentful; there's so much beauty and love in the world. There's so much love in the personal relationship with a pet. There is love you can't describe.

Engage with the grief. Don't bottle or avoid it. Feel it. You're grieving because of the depth and complexity of the relationship. That's totally okay. That's healthy. It's gonna hurt. It hurts.

I'm so sorry you're feeling this right now. Take your time and feel it. Don't feel like you ever have to let that go. That's life.

Live, suffer, and die? Yeah, you could say that, but it's in the most beautiful way, and there's so much in between.

Mobiuthuselah ,

35 is "old"?

Mobiuthuselah ,

Totally. That's what I'm imagining, a 17 year old calling the minimum age to be president too high. Can't even vote.

Mobiuthuselah ,

They have for a long time. I seem to remember the DEA commissioning studies that they would later have to get approval to officially ignore because they didn't like the outcome, multiple times. They would use highly reputable research centers and then drag their names through the mud. War on drugs is a profit and power generator.

Mobiuthuselah ,

Keep experimenting and refining.

Pine can be stained and finished. Oak, cherry, and maple can sometimes look like crap. It's a matter of preparing the wood properly. Try making sample boards. Sand consistently, don't skip grits, don't apply much pressure to the sander (let it do the work,) experiment with a pre-stain conditioner. It can help minimize splotching and some tooling marks.

Traditional (penetrating) stain needs to be applied evenly and benefits greatly from pre-stain conditioner.

Gel stains (sometimes called wiping stains, but that term gets misused) are wipe on, wipe off excess about five minutes later if you weren't already doing that. They are made to sink in a certain amount and stop.

Urethanes don't typically do well with back brushing, especially fast dry varieties. Spread urethanes thick and consistently and try not to go back over it. Lightly sand at 220 or 320 between coats and remove swarf with tack cloth or lint free cloth lightly dampened with alcohol.

Tung oils are rubbed in. Danish oils are applied thinly. These are relatively similar. Lightly sand between coats like above.

The book "Understanding Wood Finishing" by Bob Flexner is an astoundingly comprehensive book on the subject.

Don't give up on pine just yet. Hemlock, heart pine, many others can all be quite beautiful in the right setting and application. For rough stuff, try the pre-stain conditioner

Mobiuthuselah ,

Doesn't look like oak to me. For oak, I look for medullary rays that would appear running perpendicular to the rings on the end grain. I don't see any of those.

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