The gender that’s been defined as the most kind happens to also have been defined as the most passive and quiet. That’s no mistake. For the masculine abusers who have shaped this world, this means there’s is no predefined social role for anyone to keep them in check and there is no defined role for loud and vocal assertive kindness. Anyone in the past who has played this role did so only by defying those set gender roles.
So let’s change that. Let’s be kind AND take up space! Let’s practice an assertive form of kindness by ENFORCING prosocial norms. It’s not kind to leave targets of bullying to fend for themselves. It’s not kind let abusers and fascists run amuck. You can abandon politeness to dress down a harm-causer as an act of kindness while also demonstrating humility to those who deserve it.
Break free of your gender programming. You don’t have to be nonbinary to do this.