@futurebird
At a boys school in the 60s being labelled queer was the worst possible thing do everyone tried to appear as manly as possible. I thought I'd left all that behind until in 1982 I was teaching in a very conservative church school. One Monday staffroom talk turned to weekend activities which for most was Church, wash car and mow lawn (men) cook Sunday dinner (women). The looks I got when I revealed my wife did the lawn while I cooked dinner 🥺 Neither of us did Church or washed the car!