long awkward silence
"uh well. You know, I hate to kink-shame and I recognize fantasies about dominating others can have a healthy outlet... but I do think if it starts to invade your life too often it might be the sign of some deficiency... some other needs going unmet or discussed? You should talk about this with your therapist."
(This was the subtext of 'Use of Weapons' by Banks)
[Imagine if this would be the only response needed for buddings of authoritarianism. ]
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