dgoldsmith ,
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“How can you listen to a kid who wants to change sex? My kid wants to be a dinosaur!”

Because unlike wanting to be a dinosaur, there's decades of science showing kids with persistent gender dysphoria:

  1. Rarely grow out of it
  2. Continue to suffer if not treated
  3. Suffer lifelong pain if they go through the wrong puberty
  4. Are at significant risk of suicide/self-harm if untreated
  5. Thrive as well as cis kids if they are supported by family/friends and given gender-affirming care
Abercrombie ,

@dgoldsmith But how do people conclude that is the solution to what ails them? Self diagnosis is wildly popular and mostly wrong. You can stop taking drugs but this a different matter entirely.

futurebird ,
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@Abercrombie @dgoldsmith

I think the best evidence that supports this treatment are the experiences of adult trans people. If a young person constantly insists there is a gender mismatch they seem to do best when this is taken with patience and not a lot of fussing. After years of social transition it should be clear if things like hormones make sense. Some percentage of people are not the gender they get assigned at birth. That’s not shocking really.

dgoldsmith OP ,
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@futurebird @Abercrombie There are also decades of clinical studies on trans kids specifically and what works for them (and what doesn’t). But yes, many trans adults were trans kids (meaning they experienced gender dysphoria in childhood) and know what would have helped them. Like me.

Hunterrules0_o ,
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@dgoldsmith
11 years old is when you should start treating your kids request to change their gender seriously.

16-18 is when they should start hrt

futurebird ,
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@Hunterrules0_o @dgoldsmith It really depends on the kid— that could be late for some and early for others.

robin ,
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@futurebird @Hunterrules0_o @dgoldsmith

The documentary Girl-Hearted by Anne Scheschonk helps, if you really want to understand how deep-rooted gender-idendity can be from an early age on.*

If it is articulated from an early age, consistently, fought over in thousand tiny battles (like barbies, dresses, a ponytail or the daily struggle to have to wear boy-clothes)... it's pretty obvious that this is different from a dinosaur-loving-phase.

futurebird ,
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@robin @futurebird @Hunterrules0_o @dgoldsmith

Gender can be deep or weakly rooted. Some people don’t feel a strong connection to their gender, and this could be about socialization but also just who the person is. Some feel misgendering as pain some don’t notice much (we can all be misgendered cis or trans) Some cis people have never had to think about their gender, never had it questioned so they have no idea if it’s important to them.

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