Yeah, great thread all around -- thanks @jenniferplusplus for tagging me. We're all groping towards good answers. I agree that the ATProto architecture is extremely individualistic and is framed as an alternative to fedi's instances, which can provide some amount of place and community. And I also agree that fedi's current mechanisms for place and community fall far short of what's currently needed -- for example private cross-instance groups are a key feature but don't yet exist.