There isn't any big revelation at the end of this story. I am, it seems, a cis woman. I'm bisexual. Been married 18 years to wonderful cis guy. On paper we conform. You could even cross out the "bisexual" part since it wouldn't matter, except that I always notice when people are being homophobic in a more... intense way.
But both of us had so many experiences of gender being utter bullshit growing up. We laugh about it together and I wonder how many more people are like us?