When you and other men in his life model that you don't care, that you think that kind of fear of "not being a man right" is a bit silly, or that it comes from fear no one really deserves but people can work themselves up into thinking they deserve.
It's very hard.
I can remember the way little boys would say the word "pink" and lace it with disgust to this day. It sort of makes my hairs stand on end, "ew it's PINK"
futurebird