The problem with having gender norm induced trauma being so common (some people try to suggest it's "just part of growing up" ... bullshit.) is there is a desire to minimize it, to not listen to people when they say "no, that's not who I am THIS is who I am"
Our reaction should be "Oh, sorry, OK." but instead you see people getting caught up in their own BS and pain "get over it." (Because I had to get over it, what makes YOU so special?) it can become fuel for contempt.
futurebird