Seems like I am meeting twice a week with the chef girl on the regular now, we swap who comes over who's city each visit. Things are going pretty well in that respect, but my life is still a bit of a mess as I can't get effective ADHD medication because my diagnosis was private (because the waiting list for a diagnosis on the NHS is 2+ years), so now I have to suffer through being unmedicated and buy what little methylphenidate I can afford off the black market to keep myself sane for the foreseeable future, makes me feel pretty fucking hopeless.
This week has been a rollercoaster for me due to work, but everything should be easing down now. Nothing else has been going on, but I'll try to do something this weekend.
Attraction for me is more like waves. Like I meet someone new and there's just tons of different waves between us and some resonate internally with me and build up an anticipation and excitement. Over time this fluctuates a lot and there are also plenty of times where I need distance. For those feelings to really settle I need a lot of evidence. I need to feel safe and seen and I need to see emotional effort, like say take me to some place that's meaningful to them.
When it comes to dating, yes it changes a lot. Initially it's just dinner but later I want to go on walks and visit nice places. Eventually I'd like to have a peek into their lives for example friends and family and their home, hobbies etc.
As long as there are no red flags and it keeps developing emotionally and anticipation keeps building I am always up for more dates.
I only meet and date afk. Something like tinder always has seemed like a joke to me and I don't understand it. Ideally I see the person multiple times over several months with some flirting and then I know we can start dating. However if I meet someone at a random place and we spend some hours together it can go faster. Sometimes you just don't have the luxury of time, and taking chances is a part of life.
That's unique to every person. The person I'm dating right now impressed me when I met her because she was able to talk to everyone and really listen. And we had a great time dancing and talking and she seemed like someone with a lot of love in her heart. However if I'd have to pick a single trait it would be kindness and after that curiosity and playfulness.
It frustrates me when someone imposes expectations on the moment, rather than listening to their feelings.
I have been in the same boat. I have no friends, but a wife and kid. Life sucks a big one, especially work and the work-life balance, and finances, etc.
The only thing that helps me is medicine. I'm on a cocktail of Dextroamphetamine for ADD, Lamotrigine for Bipolar Disorder, and Propranolol for anxiety. I'm still far from 100%, but I'm in the more positive side of the fence.
Talking about problems can help a lot of people, and that's great to have a therapist, but it doesn't work for me. Talking about stuff doesn't change my circumstances, neither does my mindset. Definitely discuss issues with a doctor and medicate. Nothing else has helped me deal with the shit in life.
I would suggest something like a "good news week". The last week of every month dedicated to sharing the good content we have stumbled upon or experienced. Something to practice a new behavior and make it stick. I don't believe the changes will come organically. Or maybe a weekly challenge thread, with some goals to the ones that participate. Share a good memory, uplifting news, something that made you smile...
It’s because walled gardens don’t have a very long life expectancy on the internet. If Behaw doesn’t relax its strict rules a little, it will evaporate.
I use Obsidian for journaling and knowledge management. Each page is saved as an individual .txt file rather than in some database which ensures continuity of my data even if I switch applications one day.
I sync the files between my devices using Syncthing. Some of my notes are collaborative with others: by sorting my notes into specific folders and syncing select folders to select devices I have a notes library with a mix of personal and shared notes.
Syncthing is good at managing file conflicts. It surfaces the conflict and lets you select which file should remain. It also has options for very good versioning control.
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So, to your question, I would love to contribute to Syncthing to provide an optional capability to merge content from two conflicting .txt files rather than selecting one or the other. This would greatly improve the collaborative experience when using Syncthing to manage notes in Obsidian or similar applications.
I think there are a not-insignificant number of people who could get value from this. Syncthing is written in GO, and I've never contributed to an open source project before. I'm looking forward to giving it a shot but if someone else starts first that's just fine with me. :)
For the last several months I reduced my news intake and unfollowed a lot of stress-inducing accounts on social media. I have been happier and more relaxed. Can recommend.
If you think you can compensate with the strength of your own inner contemplation, you are wrong
Is that a thing about neurotypicals, or just people without any selfcontrol?
I know I can compensate all the rhetorics, because I can spot most of the techniques by name, never get "pulled in" by the news, extract only the facts (if there are any), then contrast them with other sources, before "making my mind" about anything. I'm not afraid of saying "beats me, I don't know enough", until I do learn enough to build a consistent picture without holes or contradictions (doesn't mean I'm always right, just coherent). Most times when I look at news, I end up taking away maybe a single sentence, which almost never is the one being highlighted.
There is also picking which news sources to care about. Right now I only know about two sources that are somewhat impartial: one of them is the weather channel, and the other a news meta-debate where they like inviting people with opposite points of view, without letting it turn into a cage match.
As for the rest of the article... it's just describing the techniques used to produce what I like to call "news for toddlers": fake human interest, full of rhetorical resources, cut down into tidbits easy to chew and swallow, aimed at eliciting an emotional response rather than a rational one (BTW, they're the same techniques used by trolls).
You shouldn't care about "that kind" of news. There are other kinds, like scientific breakthroughs, investigative reports, or news meta-analyses, that you might want to care about. Or whether to take an umbrella tomorrow.
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In the past few decades, the fortunate among us have recognised the hazards of living with an overabundance of food (obesity, diabetes) and have started to change our diets.
Unlike reading books and long magazine articles (which require thinking), we can swallow limitless quantities of news flashes, which are bright-coloured candies for the mind.
Out of the approximately 10,000 news stories you have read in the last 12 months, name one that – because you consumed it – allowed you to make a better decision about a serious matter affecting your life, your career or your business.
Scientists used to think that the dense connections formed among the 100 billion neurons inside our skulls were largely fixed by the time we reached adulthood.
The more news we consume, the more we exercise the neural circuits devoted to skimming and multitasking while ignoring those used for reading deeply and thinking with profound focus.
I don't know a single truly creative mind who is a news junkie – not a writer, not a composer, mathematician, physician, scientist, musician, designer, architect or painter.
i'm surprised to see that the dude who replied on my post is actually the kagi guy, though. that's surprising, i took him for some q&a support mod lmao
but yea i'm trans so i do my best not to support transphobic (or otherwise bigoted) people. seems like it's in my best interest y'know. and sometimes i don't know! i was pretty excited for kagi at first blush, it's really a shame they're not worth the time or effort
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