I’m not sure your steppin’ in what I’m putting down. You don’t need children or anyone else. You need to do some serious housekeeping before you invite anyone else over. And if you can find happiness within yourself you need to seek help. Any expectation that others are going to want to care about someone that doesn’t care about themselves is highly fallacious.
Goals for what?
Goals for your happiness. You know, ones that aren’t about other people?