lysdexic

futurebird , 2 days ago to random

Maybe we need to make some space to have conversations about the way that rigid gender expectations can hurt people. I'm not talking about trans people, exclusively (in fact the trans people I know are among the most sophisticated when it comes to processing these kinds of events and emotions)

No, where I see a lot of unprocessed trauma flailing around putting everyone in a bad way is from cis people who have unexamined psychological harm due to their failure to conform to some gender norm. 1/

lysdexic , 1 day ago

@futurebird I had so many feelings about this when I read it this morning. From birth my parents and their parents warred with each other over me and what I "should" be like. Mom would part my hair on one side and Grandma would reverse. schoolmates knew if I won the fight with my mom if I wasn't in a dress. Aunts would insist I needed to be more femme and stop trying to play with the boys or talk about important things with the men. I'm cis vanilla and I just wanted to be comfortable!

futurebird , 4 days ago to random

If serving food here is the right way to address allergies:

1. Be Honest: If you don't know you don't know. Be honest about ingredients.
2. Ideally provide a list of all of the ingredients. (It would be nice if it was in alphabetical order if it is long.) If you can't do this see number 1.
3. Treat questions about ingredients with patience. No one enjoys asking, we are not just being annoying.
4. Do not act like some allergies are real and important while others don't exist.

lysdexic , 4 days ago

@futurebird This really hard for me at church, because I'm allergic to a common ingredient in most foods and I have to ask at every station. Some of the members remember now, but I still have to ask. Usually I just have the rice and a dessert.

futurebird , 1 month ago to random

Has anyone read any good math and science history nonfiction books recently? (pop nonfiction please) Are there any really good ones out?

lysdexic , 1 month ago

@futurebird I'm into history mom fiction and Joanne Freeman is a good go to.

https://www.joannebfreeman.com/books-articles

futurebird , 3 months ago (edited 3 months ago) to random

Am I the only one who finds the republicans in the house quitting a little ... ominous?

What is about to go down that the rats are fleeing the ship?

(with apologies to actual rats)

lysdexic , 3 months ago

@futurebird I'm kind of enjoying the whole quiet quitting thing*. It's not silent, but the Clown Caucus has to be wondering if they'll even have a majority in November.

*Using golden parachutes so they don't end up like, middle class or something.

futurebird , 4 months ago to random

I’ve been excited about bolo ties for a few weeks and I finally found the perfect one. Man I wish I could be on a train on my way out west… #fashion

lysdexic , 4 months ago

@futurebird I used to fake them with brooches and clip on huge earrings. That's a nice one.

apLundell , 5 months ago to random

I hope the ants are ok.

#Monsterdon

lysdexic , 5 months ago

@futurebird Thanks for joining. It was fun having you along.