Okami_No_Rei

Okami_No_Rei , 24 days ago to Ask Lemmy in Do you have any smell you like/dislike even though most people don't?

I like the smell of ammonia. I use ammonia based cleaners almost exclusively. Bleach smells like nothing to me, like if TV static was a smell.

I dislike strong perfumes, and I hated doing laundry for a long time and would put it off as long as I could before my grandma introduced me to scentless detergent. I don't use scented dryer sheets either. I shouldn't be able to smell my clothes after a wash. It's gag-inducing.

Okami_No_Rei , 1 month ago to Ask Lemmy in How long have you gone without being in a romantic relationship?

How much time have you spent being single?

Most of my life. I've had two serious relationships and one complicated one, none lasting more than six months. My last relationship ended in late 2019, so it's been 4.5 years. I'm 33 this year, and have been single for about 31 years total.

If you’re currently single: is it by choice or circumstance?

Bit of both. I choose not to invest my time, money, and energy into pursuing a relationship, but sometimes that choice feels forced because I don't have enough time, money, or energy to spare for pursuing a relationship. If it happens, it happens, but I'm not proactive about it because I'm focusing on work and my hobbies. If I ever find myself financially stable without working full time I might have time to actively pursue a relationship, but that's not in the cards right now for my autistic ass. I spend almost all my free time recovering so I can go back to work.

I joined a LARP community and I go to board game and DnD meetups specifically to meet people and keep my social muscles healthy. Hopefully I'll find a partner in those circles someday, but no luck so far. The unfortunate reality is that every girl I meet is already in a relationship. I have made a lot of friends, so mission accomplished as far as that goes, but the folks who say that joining hobby groups and hanging out with people who share your interests is the best way to find a partner are full of shit.

Finally, both of my serious relationships ended on good terms because my partner felt I did not communicate enough with them, while I felt the amount of communication they were expecting was too much for me to maintain, which made the relationship a source of stress and anxiety for me. We broke it off, and I'm still good friends with one of them. This is a problem with me that I'm not sure how to fix, and it's very much not conducive to a healthy relationship. I hope I can find a partner who's comfortable with that some day, but it's made me leery of jumping into new relationships.

Do you / did you enjoy single life?

No, but I don't enjoy dating life, either. Life in general is an unending stream of demands, and I never get enough time to stop, breath, and reset. That's true while I'm single, and it was true while I was dating.

What are / were the pros and cons?

Pros:

• My living space is my own. Everything stays exactly where I left it, and I can decorate as I please.
• I eat when and what I want. I can cook or eat out as I choose. Meals don't need to be a production, and if I want to stock up and eat the same thing for weeks on end there's no one to complain about it.
• My time is my own. I can schedule things whenever and I don't need to coordinate calendars. If I need to travel for work I can drop everything and just go.
• No fucking kids. My niece, nephew, and soon to be 2nd nephew are plenty.

Cons:

• I'm so lonely. So very lonely.
• Porn addiction. I have a high sex drive, no healthy outlet for it, and it's an easy dopamine hit for stress and anxiety relief.
• Financial stress. I'm barely getting by on a single income.
• Constantly questioning my identity. I think I'm some flavor of aromantic sex-positive asexual, and I suspect I'm bi and/or trans, but I've got no partner to explore my own gender and sexuality with. It's hard to tell how much is real and how much is my mind spinning off the rails with nothing to latch on to.

Is / was partnership a goal of yours?

Yes. I'd like to settle down with a fellow introvert so we can be alone together.

Okami_No_Rei , 2 months ago to RPGMemes in Caverns of Tracia, Dark Tower, Dungeon of the Mad Mage, Expedition to Castle Greyhawk, Halls of Adren Vul, oh my

IT WAS ALWAYS BURNING AS THE DICE KEEP TURNING

Okami_No_Rei , 2 months ago to RPGMemes in When your enjoyment of character creation comes around full circle

Yes.

Okami_No_Rei , 2 months ago to White People Twitter in Breaking the law for real

I've got a similar story, but with a much more positive ending.

Was at a LARP event, camping in the woods, when a girl started having an asthma attack. She'd forgotten her inhaler, no one else had one on hand, and she was visibly turning blue as she suffocated. We called 911, but the nearest hospital was in a city several miles away and the 911 operator couldn't locate our site to send the ambulance.

We agreed to meet the ambulance on the highway halfway, loaded up in my truck, and I booked it. Pushed my little 4-cylinder Frontier up to 115mph. Fastest I've ever driven. I had my hazards going and was flashing my brights like an asshole at every car I overtook. Thank fuck they all yielded to me.

We met the ambulance on the side of the road, transferred her over, and they were able to get her breathing again. She survived.

Okami_No_Rei , 2 months ago to RPGMemes in When you get your ideas from the Bards' Guild

Ah, yes. Wagering hugs, kisses, and compliments are a fine way to spice up your poker game.

Okami_No_Rei , 2 months ago to Asklemmy in what was your favorite thing about your first car?

The price.

Bought a used '96 Mazda Protégé off a coworker for $700. Ran it into the ground. Scrapped it for $300 when I could finally afford a better car. Definitely got my money's worth.

I got to learn what driving without power steering felt like after the compressor locked up and the drive belt shredded. Ended up replacing it with a smaller belt just for the power steering since I couldn't afford to replace the A/C. Drove with the windows down for a few months. Good times.

Okami_No_Rei , 2 months ago to Asklemmy in Are you registered to donate your organs? Why or why not?

Yes. I check the organ donor box when I renew my driver's license. If I'm in an accident then I don't need 'em anymore. Let someone else use 'em.

Okami_No_Rei , 2 months ago to linuxmemes in People who use distros without systemd, why do you do this?

But there's no sense crying after every mistake.

You just keep on trying 'til you run out of cake.

Okami_No_Rei , 2 months ago to [Outdated, please look at pinned post] Casual Conversation in It's the 1st of April! Did you do or get an April's Fool? What was it?

One of my Discord servers changed all the channel names for the day.

Nothing else so far. It's been quiet.

Okami_No_Rei , 3 months ago to 196 in Interstell(rule)

I really like how the web serial Sideways in Hyperspace handles this problem.

In short, the faster ships catch up with the slower generation ships, facilitating trade, arranging transport for those who want to leave, and allowing them to become extrasolar cities and stepping stones to the wider galaxy.

Okami_No_Rei , 3 months ago to Calvin and Hobbes in 24 March 1987

Is this the first appearance of the transmogrifier?

Okami_No_Rei , 4 months ago to cats in Yeah that sounds about right

That is a load-bearing "(no explanation necessary)".

I'd love to see an explanation. How did we get from 'clowder' to 'destruction'? Gaining a syllable and losing alliteration is not a typical linguistic evolution. Who's actually using this term?

The closest I've seen actual examples of is a tongue-in-cheek 'catastrophe of cats', and that never went mainstream as far as I'm aware.

Okami_No_Rei , 4 months ago to cats in Yeah that sounds about right

Ditto. Clowder of cats is the term I'm familiar with.

"Destruction" of cats is new to me. I don't think I like it. Doesn't roll off the tongue well.