Again: You're using a model that doesn't translate into politics.
Leaving an abuser is a hard road to a better outcome. Working to end the genocide in Gaza is a hard road to a better outcome (and yes, absolutely if that includes affirmatively putting pressure on Biden in whatever way.) Categorically refusing to vote for the non-democracy-ending candidate until something changes by magic from above is not a hard road to anything. It's just more genocide (by quite a lot).
It's like trying to fistfight the police when they're going to arrest you. It's like getting abused by your abusive partner and so refusing to make a decision to leave because the shelter is behind on their taxes. It's like getting a cut that's infected and refusing to get it treated because you don't like the American medical system and think it needs to change. It doesn't make any fucking sense. It's just a non sequitur.
The problems are real, but refusing to engage with the system where the outcomes can be impacted, until they get better on their own, will in this case make those real problems absolutely catastrophically worse.
IDK how long I want to go back and forth about it, but that's my feeling on it.
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