So you're saying that people fighting with nail-studded sticks, or secretly assassinating internal political opponents in the other's territory, is a similar level of conflict as flattening an embassy with a laser-guided bomb, or firing 300 drones and ballistic missiles, and then having a retaliatory strike on the location of another country's nuclear program?
This strains my credulity, that you are suggesting this.
If China bombed a US embassy in Japan, the US fired 300 missiles at targets on China's eastern seaboard (which were intercepted), and China retaliated by striking targets in San Diego... no one on earth would be denying that they were at war.