I think women should start pissing standing so my fellow fragile penis owner, who think standing while pissing is the only option, learn how filthy a toilet gets if you don't put your parts in the bowl.
If it's a problem from there, it's not a battle of "who needs the seat in what configuration," it's a battle of "who deserves to touch the icky parts and who deserves the icky parts touched for them" at which point we're through.
Just check it before you use it, and adjust it if needed, unless you're hyper conscious of the particulates that tend to result from flushing, in which case fuck it, close it everytime.