I had the same upbringing in the Catholic church. Went to a couple services last year at a progressive christian church that’s queer-welcoming & non-denominational. I’m not all of a sudden a christian again, but it was actually really healing. Rather than focusing on how you’re going to (fucking) hell, it focused on the “love thy neighbour” aspects. I dunno, take what I’m saying with a grain of salt but it was nice to see religion being used as a positive force for good.