I appreciate your comment and you’ve hit on a good point in that I don’t think I am in a stable place right now.
I am on the right trajectory, but I am conscious it’s a tentative path and although my addiction was only weed, it’s had a devastating effect on my life and I think you’re spot on that I need to focus on myself, selfish isn’t always bad I guess.
That said I can recruit other friends to be there for this friend.