"I went to India and I was sexually assaulted on a bus."
"THATS YOUR FAULT FOR NOT GOING TO THE 'GOOD' PARTS."
No. Fuck you. India has a rampant sexual assault problem.
Lemmy has rampant problems. To ignore them and say it's the visitors fault is such a fucking asshole position to take. If the first time you came to lemmy was when csam was being spammed and you were subjected to it... it 100% isn't your fault. If you make a comment on something that interests you from All and you don't see which community it is in and you get spammed with slurs and attacks for having a different opinion... it's not your fault.
it's toxic as fuck and super passive aggressive.
"You don't know how to curate your experience. You aren't very good at it. You must have issues."
That's what people are saying. They hide behind the bullshit example you gave "what's wrong with selecting your interests." No. Fuck you.