To the people who say they don't run into jerks here or they don't understand when people say it's worse than reddit... what rose colored glasses are you wearing? Huge swaths of lemmy are little better than 4chan.
"Oh, you just have to curate your communities."
Stop. Take your superior than thou attitude and just stop. You are part of the problem.
Why is curating your communities a bad recommendation? I understand that there could be more admin tooling and such, but why is looking out for your interests a "Holier than thou" attitude?
"I went to India and I was sexually assaulted on a bus."
"THATS YOUR FAULT FOR NOT GOING TO THE 'GOOD' PARTS."
No. Fuck you. India has a rampant sexual assault problem.
Lemmy has rampant problems. To ignore them and say it's the visitors fault is such a fucking asshole position to take. If the first time you came to lemmy was when csam was being spammed and you were subjected to it... it 100% isn't your fault. If you make a comment on something that interests you from All and you don't see which community it is in and you get spammed with slurs and attacks for having a different opinion... it's not your fault.
it's toxic as fuck and super passive aggressive.
"You don't know how to curate your experience. You aren't very good at it. You must have issues."
That's what people are saying. They hide behind the bullshit example you gave "what's wrong with selecting your interests." No. Fuck you.
I was asking a genuine question. I wasn't saying you were wrong. I even said there should be more admin tooling to help moderate this sort of thing. I just was wondering why suggesting that you can curate is a bad thing. Because giving power to the people who find things they dislike, sounds good to me. Sure you shouldn't poise it as it was in the original comment in the thread, but still, curating is something you can use to make your time here more enjoyable.
As a 10+ year reddit user who has switched 98% to Lemmy, only checking reddit on my computer every couple days: Lemmy is completely fine, and I have seamlessly transitioned from Reddit.
Its userbase is more technical than Reddit's, and there's not as much content. But it is a perfectly good Reddit alternative. I find it isn't as addictive as reddit, which is awesome. I just wish there were more educational communities akin to AskHistorians, AskScience, etc.
The “Not enough mod tools” complaint is valid and I hope that improves as the platform moves forward.
I DO NOT get the disdain for the Lemmy userbase. I’ve been here for the past 4-5 months and can say I’ve had so many more meaningful and fulfilling conversations here on Lemmy than I ever did on Reddit in the 10 years I was there.
I think it’s the same situation as between a small town and a big city. Reddit is huge and with a large number of people; you’re going to statistically get a larger number of assholes. Not to mention there are tens of thousands of people commenting on anything that hits r/all, so there’s no chance someone else is going to read your 1 comment that is drowning in a sea of other comments.
Lemmy feels more like a small town. Things move a little slower here, but there’s less competition to have your voice heard, and I end up seeing some of the same users time and time again across the Fediverse. I think that smaller feel means more people have a chance to see your content without it getting drowned out by the masses, which means more opportunity to make connections.
Some people suck, but Lemmy has been fucking awesome for me so far and I love this place because of that.
I had that kind of “astroturf-y” feel from the Reddit comment as well, but their opinion about mod tools is not entirely wrong.
The fear-mongering about CSAM being all over the place hasn’t been my experience, though. I’ve never come across CSAM here on Lemmy (sorry to those who have), but I don’t tend to keep NSFW posts on because I cruise Lemmy at work.
