Ey, cheers mate, refreshing to get a composed response!
I'd argue there are more sides than just NATO vs China and friends. India often fucks over both sides because both refuse to acknowledge it and its concerns for example. It saddens me that such counties don't give a shit, but I can't really fault them too much considering we do the same to them. And such rhetoric only serves as fuel for them to mock us.
You're definitely right that we also need military might to protect our values, as a European I'm disgusted by our inactivity and reliance on the US. On the subject of cute counties, I'd argue Finland isn't one of em, I'd also add Sweeden just for military reasons while I'm at it. Both have strong militaries with plenty of reserves/mobilization potential, Finland even has nuclear ready bunkers under every major city. So glad we got em in NATO now, hope the rest of Europe catches up soon.
And not gonna lie, as much as I shit on America, it's largely because I'm also sacred. The US is on a slippery slope due to decades of ignorance and if the US goes to shit it's gonna have far and wide consequences around the globe. I hope the Trump situation will act as a wake up call for us in Europe, and we'll get our shit together, not only to be self sufficient, but hopefully emerge as a genuine ally for peace and freedom that reaches beyond diplomacy. If America falls and Europe doesn't get its shit together, that's good bye for Ukraine and then what? That would set a new standard, a world in which might makes right... No even an attempt at rule of law.