I'm not suggesting that at all. What I want is the next logical step after federation, which is basically data being distributed.
Basically, I want BitTorrent, but for social media. So there would be no instances, only communities (so no community@instance, just community). Right now, if lemmy.ml goes down, all of the communities hosted there go down and people would need to migrate elsewhere. With a distributed system, if someone drops out, the community goes on because it doesn't live on any one system. Lemmy could mitigate that with a feature to move a community, but you still have the fragmentation issue.
The tricky part is moderation, but I'm thinking that could be done through votes and reports/blocks. Basically, if you vote the same way as someone consistently, you'll start to trust their votes, reports, and blocks more than other uses, and you could enable automatic moderation to hide stuff based on someone else's moderation.
So you would no longer need to rely on a centralized set of mods for a community, you'd instead pick mods yourself based on who you agree with. So you and I could have a separate set of "mods" for the same content. At any time, you could inspect the moderation to see if you agree with it, and your account would learn what you like and don't like. This kills the "power hungry mods" issue that kills so many communities (i.e. I've left subreddits purely because of mods), though I'm a little worried it'll push people even more into echo chambers.
The important thing, though, is that it puts the control directly into the hands of the users, with a set of tools to customize it. And there could be multiple competing clients to handle the moderation differently. I think it's a bit more democratic than what Lemmy provides.
its okay to disagree
I absolutely agree.
My point is that I see federation as a stopgap to something better, not the destination, and it's totally reasonable to disagree. I just think federation will have similar problems as centralized services, and that it's inevitable once it grows to a certain size.