I think it’s just dating apps accentuating existing stereotypes
my impression is women mostly gatekeeper: do I swipe left or right?
men need to sell themselves, to get past that gate keeping
You’re setting yourself up in a situation where both know facts about each other, but nothing personal, women are selected mostly by looks and don’t need to initiate, and men are selected mostly by salesmanship, talking. We’re all missing the most important characteristics of each other, and setting the wrong people up for success/failure